Was in LTR for 7 years and I was the distancer, everything was great for many years and she adored me until I pushed it too far - the thing is at the time I didn’t even realise I was doing it.

Now I’m in a relationship for 4 months and at the start everything was fine but recently she has distanced herself a bit but assured me everything is fine, she has told me before she has an avoiding/distancing personality.

I agree I am probably being too needy/clingy and I need to stop so would being distant myself solve anything or will it lead to things getting worse? I’ve tried talking to her about it but she seems oblivious and makes me feel like I’m going crazy.