Putting your AA in perspective

2010-12-17T21:37:18+00:00

Meh. I've found the biggest help for AA is repeating "99% of people are really friendly once you start talking to them." Before I start talking to someone they always seem cold and probably hostile. This is just my own negative expectations coming up from shitty experiences in my teenage years. It's not real, it's just a conditioned expectation. So, I go up and start talking and within about 5 seconds I prove that statement right, 99% of the time.

GreenvillePUA · 2010-12-18T02:52:59+00:00

I heard this line once from a friend. We weren't in a PUA situation, but I think it applies nonetheless.

"It doesn't matter. None of this matters."

Honestly, I think the only "hard" approaches one does are maybe the first three in their whole life. Then you realize the people at bars and clubs are just as anxious to "meet new people" as you are. Otherwise, they would be at home watching a movie. For me now, the only approach where I feel any AA is the first of the night. After you go through that and realize that the worst case scenario is just a conversation that goes no where, you think....f*ck it.

The_Justicer · 2010-12-17T20:36:35+00:00

New here. What's AA?

pua_thiseyepole · 2010-12-18T02:55:29+00:00

Lately, whenever I get nervous, I just think about the fight or flight response. Usually, I'll want to wuss out on my intentions and use my surge of hormones to help me escape the situation. But clearly, I should be using it like rocket fuel to get over my stupid fear of rejection and fight for what I want.

"People aren’t out to hurt you. They don’t know who you are and what you’re all about, so stop taking life so personally all the time."

I will internalize this.

Title	Putting your AA in perspective
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Upvotes	11
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Date	December 17, 2010 4:30 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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