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[–]Ryan_Nall 9 years ago* [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Don't try to be charming over text. It does not work and will be misinterpreted most of the time. Save your charm for personal interactions, do it with the right intentions and you should be good to go. If I get a new number I try to build a minimum amount of comfort at the start and as soon as I feel like she is comfortable enough I will just ask her out on a date. I have experienced a very very little flake rate this way and get the date most of the time.
Key is to do all the work before you even start texting. So the first time you meet in person, give her an awesome experience, a good kiss and she will remember you immediately the next day. Moreover she will probably be willing to go on a date with you once she received a minimum amount of comfort. Talk about your mutual experience from the day before or even some generic stuff. Sure, you can be charming here and there but keep it at minimum. Reminder: The work is done in person not via texting
Also, you say you can keep a conversation going and make the other person feel comfortable. Does not sound like a man-to-woman foundation to me and sounds more like a good friend to me. If you are receiving numbers from going out at night I would recommend you to start physical escalation. Going for the kiss here is pretty important.
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[–]Ryan_Nall1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
No, this does not apply for high school and probably not for talking to strangers in the daylight for the most part. This mostly applies for clubs/bars/houseparties. Yea, in high school you probably want to be somewhat more careful about what you do as first of all people are still pretty young, so the general seduction principles might not even apply here due to lack of maturity. Girls might not be mature enough and feel creeped out after literally nothing happened. I did not know about seduction back in high school, however, if I really wanted to persue something there I probably would have done it at one of the many houseparties. Just keep in mind that some might not be mature enough in general.
I am in university myself and I generally have little problems getting physical here. However, I don't get physical inside university, I do it at one of the many many parties. Would probably recommend the same for high school, however, remember in university are adults only. Just keep that maturity factor somehow in mind.
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