Questions/Introspective/Inner Game/AFC

2010-11-30T08:36:36+00:00

You vocalized it, now do it!

Inner Game improvement is done with a mix of "fake it till you make it" and genuine self-improvement.

Go to a therapist and see what they can do for your confidence issues. Get to the gym, start reading more, better your career, meditate and figure out what your values are, read/listen to all the solid PUA material you can find. I think RSD's focus on inner game would be good for you.

You have it in you! Now go do it!

cheddarchexmix · 2010-11-30T08:40:53+00:00

You probably should forget about pickup until you fix your inner issues. I'd recommend checking out books on self-improvement, maybe like this and following their advice. Get yourself into situations that help you build self esteem and rapport with both sexes, like maybe a casual coed sports league.

Good luck man, from the sounds of it you still have a pretty long journey ahead of you. I started from a point similar to yours and overcame it, so it's definitely doable.

LOLJBF · 2010-11-30T08:42:07+00:00

I wouldnt even call myself an rAFC but here a few things that anyone will tell you.
1 - Talk to people in all situations. ANYONE. It's tiring, but work at it. Shopkeepers, bus drivers, colleagues, anyone. Practice to learn how to be friendly, right off the bat.
2 - YOU NEED THIS THE MOST: Self-worth. Seriously, you need to be happy with yourself first, man. What makes you, you? What are your hobbies and passions? Use them to make yourself feel valuable.
You know that one thing you do really well? Better than everyone else? Yeah, you know that thing. Don't put the girl's value above yours. You are the prize man; and find reasons to believe that.

2010-11-30T15:48:18+00:00

Check out Mode One by Alan Currie. Since you probably want some quick advice, here's some stuff I ripped off from him that has instantly helped me:

Stop trying to manipulate women into having a relationship/sex with you. Everytime a women has made you feel shitty or led you on, chances are you weren't being honest with them either. Work on being completely honest with a women. I'd be willing to bet you're paying lip service to wanting a relationship- you really just want to bang a lot of broads. This is natural, so don't try to trick girls into fucking you and they can't trick you into believing they're going to fuck you. It also eliminates the need for canned material and "systems", since being honest is done in our own words.

You'd be amazed about how having the burden of being something your not removed improves how you feel. You'll also finally be able to have compassion for women since you'll begin to see most of them are victims of a society which has made them feel like "sluts," if they do things they want to do.

Stop tying your self worth up with how a women feels about you or doesn't feel about you. Stop trying to "understand" everything. You're not going to, and aren't supposed to.

Title	Questions/Introspective/Inner Game/AFC
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Date	November 30, 2010 7:45 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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