Don't take girl-getting advice from girls.

Don't worry. I'm not gonna start bashing women wily-nily. I know there are tons of exceptions, but it's a generally good guideline. It's also a pretty well-accepted precept round these parts, but I should have kept it in mind over the last few weeks.

The short version: I got involved with a friend -- I know, I know, shit idea, but she's smoking awesome -- and blew it bad. Her best friend, another close friend, was super stoked we'd gotten together. She gave me a bunch of advice as to how I should proceed. I listened, and slipped into the "Romantic Comedy" trap. Dinner. Drinks. Candles. Compliments. (I'm cringing right now.) And last night she gave me a speech that basically amounted to "Nope. Nope. Nope. This is wayyyyyyyyy too much."

I'm definitely not blaming my friend for shit not working out. She had the best intentions, and I should have been smart enough to filter out the stuff that was -- pretty obviously, in retrospect -- sending me squarely into the friendzone. I think she genuinely, 100% wanted things to work out, so much so that she was projecting a bunch of "magical," "Prince Charming" bullshit onto us. I took her advice because I A) love and trust her and B) thought, foolishly, that she might have had some special insight into the other girl's mind. Maybe I should re-word my opening statement to: "Be skeptical about girls' girl-getting advice."

I really liked her, but I'm not gonna start carrying a torch for her or anything. (Got another date set-up for later this week.) The sex was good -- I think, but I'm biased ;) -- so if I convey that I'm not hung up on her, not grieving our pseudo-relationship, and ready to move on, maybe a FWB is possible.

I'm not asking for advice or anything, just trying to process this as a learning experience. (Although I'd be stoked to hear peoples' thoughts, especially if there are any girls present.) Thanks for reading.

Edit: Forgot the worst part. I've been in a bit of funk/slump lately -- only two girls since August -- but I guess this success kinda "livened me up." I flat-out shot down two girls at a party last weekend because of her. They both baldly propositioned me, and I was all, "NOPE. SHE'S THE ONE FOR ME." Fuck. Other beginner/intermediates, don't let this shit happen to you.