Requesting Advice: A head-start on 'how to hate on myself less'

RicDouchegado · 2014-01-31T13:08:40+00:00

In Buddhism there's a concept called "mind and no mind". In other words, your thoughts are real because you have them, but they're not real because they're just electrical signals in your brain.

Right now you are under control of your thoughts, rather than being in control of them. And it's really easy to think they're something tangible, because your thoughts sound like you. But it's really just a trick, and they're actually very easy to control.

I'm sure this scenario sounds familiar: you're trying to be positive and then something happens where you lose that mentality, then you get all mad and beat yourself up mentally.

"I'm so stupid" "I can't do this" "I'm an idiot"

You get the point. All you're doing is fighting against yourself and piling on the negative thoughts.

Instead, use a concept that people use in meditation called mindfulness practice. Basically when a negative thought occurs, gently turn it positive.

Your inner dialogue should go something like:

"I know that I'm being negative, but I would much rather be positive right now. It's ok to be negative, but I choose to be positive."

Then mentally make the conversation what you want it to be. Of course you're going to fail a lot in the beginning, and it will keep happening. But if you continue to spin it positively, over time you become a lot more effective at it, and eventually it'll become second nature and then you'll be positive.

How that helps!

Title	Requesting Advice: A head-start on 'how to hate on myself less'
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Upvotes	1
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Date	January 31, 2014 9:35 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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