Restoring frame in a LTR?

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-09-11T08:05:27+00:00

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FlyLikeMe · 2025-09-11T03:01:08+00:00

Why should she have stayed with you when you bailed on a dinner with her family? That's an unfair request on your part, and I'm sorry your family sucks so bad, but it is good you recognized you overreacted, which you did.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-10T23:48:00+00:00

- how do I go about restoring my frame and being someone she actually respects and admires?

Stop letting feelings control you, and learn to feel things without letting those feelings control your behaviour, start practing self-control or finding other avenues to express feelings and don't make woman responsible for your feelings because you are the one who needs to take ownership of his feelings without making it a burden she has to bare, or something she has to manage or fix for you.

And stop telling her what she should do. In a relationship neither of you have a legitimate right to tell the other how you should behave or what decisions you must make. Both of you choose freely what you want to do. SO telling her "she should have stayed with me" suggests that she has an obligation to do so, rather than a legitimate desire from her to stay with you without you having to ask for it.

If she didn't stay with you is because she didn't feel like it and if she doesn't feel like it, you don't really have any business demanding that she should have done it. And this goes both ways.

Things are tense because you cannot control how someone acts, you have to give them the freedom to choose how to act on their own. You also cannot expect that if you feel upset about that family then she also has to be upset with them. That's your feelings and your decision, don't try to control how others should feel or behave or engage with others, and do not dare to make this about "betrayal" or any bullshit like this.

That's how you get her to respect you and admire you.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2025-09-10T23:38:33+00:00

This should be asked in a different sub, you’re asking for relationship advice in a pickup sub

Title	Restoring frame in a LTR?
Author	uncontrollable_cbr
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	September 10, 2025 11:25 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1ndtjh3/restoring_frame_in_a_ltr/
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