Preface

Based on my recent post about a shit-test compilation (link below), it seems there was enough interest to follow through with this. Those who thought it was a bullshit idea (see my end note, you guys were just shit-testing me😉). Due to limited user responses I’ve decided to use multiple resources to make this as wholesome as possible.

The fundamentals

What is a shit-test? Any comment, remark or question designed to test your response. Whether it be conscious or subconscious. Why do women shit test? The answer is very simple: to filter out guys who don’t have resilience and confidence and who get discouraged by her resistance. She wants to challenge you. She wants someone who can stand up to the curve balls she throws your way, in a positive way and not crumble like pussy. Also, she gets tons of guys approaching her, so can you blame her?

It’s a way she separates boys from men. Besides, do you really want to be with a woman who takes anything she gets? No. So consider the shit-test a good thing.

Types of shit-tests

There are countless ways in which you may be shit-tested. I’ve outlined a few broader categories, but the list is not exhaustive. We will discuss how to deal with these later.

  1. Physical appearance. Naturally, these will most likely come up first, since you’ve just met the girl and your outward appearance is what she notices immediately. These may include; height, facial features, hair color etc. The list goes on. It’s self-explanatory. a. Usually testing your confidence, self esteem etc.
  2. Personality traits. Anything based on how you conduct yourself. You may be introverted and receive a comment like “why are you so quiet?”. Again, a self-explanatory list. a. She’s trying to understand who you are as a person.
  3. Status. IMO, these are crucial to crush, especially in a generation of millennials who tend to be rather pretentious. This would include, for example, “what do you do for a living?”, “where do you live?”, “what car do you drive?”. a. She’s testing how you perceive yourself to society and how society perceives you. Both are in your control if you’re proud of who you are. Demonstrate value.
  4. Your motives. What I mean by this, is what you’re looking for out of the interaction/engagement. You may be playing the long game, or perhaps you’re just in it for the short-term pleasure. Who gives a fuck. She just wants to make sure her expectations are aligned to protect herself. If you’re about the short-term play, she doesn’t want to get herself hurt but committing more than what’s needed, and vice versa. a. Nothing more than gauging your intentions
  5. Her personal circumstances. These are directed from her point of view, not yours. Most obviously, “I have a boyfriend” etc. a. How do you respond to her situation in life?

Understanding what these mean

Identify what she is trying to achieve by each. Assume she asks, “what do you do for a living?” and you respond, “I’m working as a burger flipper, but the money is good, and I’ve recently interviewed as an engineer, so I’ll be killing it soon!” – you’ve failed. Because she tested your ‘status’ and you had to justify why you do what you do. Own whatever job you do, whatever car you drive or any other social expectation. Be proud. Apply this to all categories. Own it.

Two key points: 1. it’s how you perceive YOURSELF, and 2. Super importantly, you can counter this as your own personal shit test for her. If she only gives a shit about what car you drive, then you have to NEXT her. No one has time for materialistic people.

On the other hand; if you do happen to have a great job, cool car etc. then be humble. Because, you’ve also failed if you try and push your value down her throat by bragging. Never brag. Ever. Just be proud and be humble.

Dealing with shit-tests

Three main ways to deal with shit-tests (as pointed out in a few of the links below):

a. Exaggerate. Blow shit out of proportion using humor, in a playful way. This shows that you don’t give a fuck and it doesn’t bother you. Works particularly well for physically based remarks as it demonstrates that you aren’t insecure. Important to use humor.

b. Ignore and dismiss. What you’re portraying is that you aren’t bothered by the comment she just passed. You don’t live in the most upmarket neighborhood? Who gives a shit. Dismiss her comment for being shallow. Don’t try and justify.

c. Deflect and redirect. A tactic that is used well in politics and business but easily applied here. You want to change the focus of the conversation.

Again, not an exhaustive list, but importantly, it is crucial that your response technique is appropriate to her shit-test. If you’re deflecting her comment she makes based on your physical appearance for example, she may see this as you not being able to confront the fact that you’re short, overweight etc. Apply common sense, such as deflect comments about her personal circumstances (don’t make fun of them).

Key takeaways

  1. Know what she’s trying to achieve by shit testing you (based on the 5 categories of tests)
  2. Differentiate between what is and what is not a shit-test. Sometimes she’ll be genuinely interested in the conversation and pass certain remarks.
  3. Always be the best person you can be. Somethings are out of your control, but nothing stops you from working out, keeping healthy, doing your best at you job etc. etc.
  4. Ensure your responses don’t display, inter alia; anger, insecurity, irritation, embarrassment etc.
  5. No when to walk away. Sometimes she just isn’t worth it, and her shit-tests aren’t actually a filter, but a rather a display of her shitty personality. Maybe she really is in a committed relationship? Highly underrated quality of being successful with women is understanding when to cut your losses.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU AWESOME MOTHERFUCKERS!

Feel free to add any thoughts and comments.

Disclaimer, post credits and resources.

  1. Addressing those who think shit-tests are bullshit. Your point is taken, but the purpose of this post and the entire sub in general is to help those who find value in different aspects of seduction. We all have strengths, we all have weaknesses. You might be operating on legend mode when rebutting any “shit-test” or “tease” (call it what you like). That’s great and I’m genuinely happy for you. But not everyone is not that level and I’m directing the post at those who could do with the help.
  2. Thank you to everyone who submitted useful links. Yes, I am new here and I am aware that similar (very good) posts exist. Why not use all to your advantage?
  3. Thank you and credit to the following for their contributions: u/guyinaustin, u/ForsakenBank, u/aswjacob, u/TheJoeyJoeJoe, u/TheRealTopFive

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a4a5dq/shit_test_compilation_thread/

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4y373s/blast_past_every_shit_test/

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9kfl5t/the_ultimate_guide_to_passing_shit_tests_this/

https://www.saulisdating.com/blog/techniques/how-to-pass-any-and-all-shit-tests-that-women-throw-at-you/