Self-destruct. Could you some advice.

VMikeL · 2013-06-02T08:03:52+00:00

I used to fill every gap and potential gap in coversation with talking. It wasn't so much a fear, but a disdain to awkward pauses. I have since slowed down, calmed down and speak clearer. When I do stop and they don't speak, I look at them and try to notice something. This is either to kino something, a loose strand of hair, or to build some tension. I found it only got awkward when one of us didn't want to be there, and the pause came out of nowhere.

The point is, you can control whether things get awkward or not. It's about being present, aware, and strong at that. It takes practice and a willingness to be in an uncomfortable situation, until you find out how to make them comfortable. It takes practice, but it's worth it.

game_sloth · 2013-06-02T05:31:47+00:00

Raj Koothrappali syndrome. Get drinking, pal.

But seriously, you're just going to have to do it. You're able to talk to them and get the number in the first place. Start by taking them to a movie. Minor conversation on the way. No conversation during. Minor conversation after.

Dynamix125 · 2013-06-02T05:56:16+00:00

dude get off an internet forum. "GUISE IM SOCIALLY AWKWURD LOL PLS HELP" stop being a beta bitch and go outside

Title	Self-destruct. Could you some advice.
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Date	June 2, 2013 5:22 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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