Over the past 3 months, I have obsessed over psychology, and spirituality.

I have learned everything I can about the human condition, consciousness, and how to manage our own so that we can produce results.

Most people have what’s known as a ‘story’ about their life.

It allows them to have a sense of certainty, and comfort in the world.

The reason we have these ego defenses or a ‘story’ is because the world and life is infinite.

The infinite nature of life is what is terrifying to us, the possibility of it all.

Also, the absolute definite and final nature of death.

So… we have an idea of who we are… our story.

It governs everything, our patterns of focus, the meanings we assign to what we focus on, and the way we ultimately feel which shapes what we do.

We have rules about how other people are supposed to act, what they’re supposed to be like, how our own lives are supposed to be etc etc.

The truth is, is that life is random essentially. People all have their own unique filters or stories for life which they have conviction about and therefore cannot identify with your world view.

The oedipal complex is a large part of what shapes your world view if you believe in Freudian Psychology.

I personally believe this is a PART of your psychology to be respected and acknowledged but it isn’t entirely the most helpful way of decoding your psychology as a whole.

The oedipal complex is the idea that we wanted to fuck the parent of opposite sex and kill the parent of the same sex (competition.)

It is a drama that occurs in every household.

So, as a result we are forced to develop a system of beliefs, and behaviors to contend with these sexual feelings. To rationalize them, to help us make sense of them.

We certainly cannot fuck our mothers and kill our fathers that’s highly inappropriate!

Maybe we are wrong, maybe our sexuality is shameful, what is wrong with us!

Stuff it away. Stuff it down. Don’t feel or think about those things.

And so it is today…

Because we relied on our parents for survival when we were very little…

If we did something that would get us in big trouble… we’d be risking survival.

We needed our parents love and would do anything to keep in good standing with them.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

We’re adults now, and sometimes we have to be sexual. We have to be bold. We have to sexually advance and lead when we want to be our full masculine selves.

We want feminine, sexy, cute, beautiful women in our lives?

So we have to allow ourselves to express those things that our childhood prison wouldn’t approve of.

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-Brad Holiday