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[–]sexyhothung 23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
2 days later i text her “hey wyd we should go to get something to eat” to which she responds “i can’t and can you take the video of me off your instagram.”
She’s just not that into you, time to walk away...
[–]norwegiandoggo 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The fact that i got a response i take it as a good sign?
No. Just getting a response is a neutral sign. But you got 20 bad signs and 1 neutral sign..so the evidence is pretty clear. It's negative overal.
My question is how can i get her interested again what should my next move be?
Your next move should be to delete her video and not text her again unless she does. This is the most likely to spark interest. When I say most likely, it's still extremely unlikely. Like 0.1%. That's how low your chances are if you do everything right from now on. If you don't, the chances will be even lower.
Better let go and find a better candidate. Otherwise you're just being desperate and that's unattractive. You shouldn't want to be with a girl who doesn't want to be with you.
[–]Snoo-1303 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Walk away my man. Dont contact her at all.
[–]renesz11 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you should fall back and see If she contacts u. Reaching out constantly will drove her away. From your description i think she acted lovey-dovey with you but then she met someone new who got her attention thats why she suddenly started acting different and distant.
[–]YoungGucci66 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Don't contact her again. Why would you even be interested in this woman she clearly doesn't like you enough to even be associated with you on Insta let alone talk to you, let alone even text you back to actually give you a heads up and treat you like a decent person. Any further texts to her will make you seem even more desperate than you already are and will drive her away even further. Your only move is to not text her again and move on. If she's interested in you in any way she'll text you back at some point, but not after pulling some more desperate attempts so don't even think about it
[–]phenibutabuser 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
ok i got it from all the replies i really wanna just reply one more time and say “could u at least tell me why you started acting distant that’s the reason i stoppwd responding, either way whatever good luck in life” but i know that’s just me being frustrated that i don’t have a reason and wanting closure to this i guess but i’m not going to do it i’m just gonna stay focused on my music and my life and be active on social media so at least she can see idgaf
[–]CheesePlease 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
she probably met someone else. Walk away my dude
[–]YoungGucci66 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
That's honestly a terrible reply IMO, shows you're clingy as hell, desperate and can't let go and move on. If you want to be viewed as anything but that you need to not ever send her another text. She didn't text you back so you literally have no reason to send her that horrible text. What do you want to hear? "I just don't like you, I'm into someone else hotter, I'm fucking someone else, I'm in love with someone else, I don't envision a future with you, you're not my type' like what the hell are you trying to get from her aside from pity? Just move on my dude and grind away at life
[–]phenibutabuser 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
its cuz i honestly 100% think she didn’t meet someone else cuz i started focusing more on my business instead of her she even said i was starting to be boring on the phone and like i believe that’s why she slowly became distant so i felt like i could attract her again does that not make the situation any different?
[–]YoungGucci66 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not at all dude, it really doesn't. Dude, she literally is willing to never speak or look at you again until the day she fucking dies. She could essentially give less of a shit about you, she literally asked you to remove her from your IG, she is either completely embarrassed by being associated with you or she flat out doesn't want to be associated with you in even the most minuscule way (being on a single IG post). Not to mention that her only reply to your multiple attempts to win her back is basically 'please remove me from your IG, I don't want to be associated with you in any way' This is the most clear example of someone who clearly is not into you in even the slightest way. How many times have you guys hooked up?
Not to mention that if she was bored with you a month ago I'm sure nothing has changed in such a short time. It's been a month and she spoke to you one time and it was to get you to remove her from her life, you have absolutely no idea if she's talking to someone else and with how easy Tinder/Bumble is to get into you really can't say that you 100% believe that(unless you're literally tracking her phone activity), in fact it just kinda shows how naive/blind you're being.
You gotta move on my dude
[–]phenibutabuser 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
see that’s why i posted here to get a perspective like this thank you
[–]YoungGucci66 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just keep grinding away brother, work out like a mad man and focus on yourself and other women. There'll be a time when you look back at all this and just laugh, good luck my dude
[–]BadBambino 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why u want someone who is shting on u? I think u can do better! Have some self esteem! U being a child.
Next time use social medias to get girls to go out with u! Not so u talk to them over their neck 24hours! Thats like being a baby!! Dont call if u have nothing to say! Thats what ur homies is there for! To talk useless things 🤪
[–]phenibutabuser 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
i slid in her dm’s that’s how i use social media lol i’ll just do it again to someone else but thanks for knocking sense to me and thanks to all the other people too who commented
[–]BadBambino 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Try something to lure the girls to u. Not u going on the thirst hunt. There is alot of guys doing that. U need to be special. Besides if she came knock she willing to walk in the door more than u inviting her.
[–]phenibutabuser 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yea by that point if she does ima say fuck you lol just like i did when my ex tried to come back 💯
Thats the new age! The way of dumping! Is ghosting. No more “ heeey its me not u” stuffs! Adults nowadays acting like children. Dont take it personal
yea true especially with so much other options online they just ghost and forget oh well i had just finally gotten over a 2 year breakup when i met her so i’m not trippin off it too bad it was just weird
[–]BadBambino 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When u thought u knew it all, the bitch came hated ur guts and just change her personality a whole. Just to prove u wrong and get u confuse. They just want fake compliments. They dont want someone to point out their bullshit. So u just fuck around and move on the next one. Till u get a hang of it
To them it’s all about the vibes and mood swings. U just keep on luring them with those shining metal things 🤣🤣
[–]CenaSmackDown 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you gotta move on unless you want a bunch more unresponded texts.
[–]RandoUnimportant 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just quit reaching out, if she wants to talk to you, she will
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