Shit testing and kino thoughts

recyclablebanthas · 2018-09-20T05:05:07+00:00

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many girls are actually really insecure and sweet deep down but they will just act like a complete bitch....call you names and shit, push you around.....but it's ALL a shit test if she has already been giving you IOIs. she is basically testing to see if you are a bigger bitch than she is.

A lot to unpack here:

Girls certainly can be insecure and they can be sweet "deep down," also.
But they have multiple reasons for being, "a bitch." Not the least of which is that they put up with a number of REALLY extremely awkward and sometimes pushy interactions with dudes. Dudes who often take no very poorly.
If she's calling you names and pushing you around, then point blank, she's got some history and baggage and if you stick around in that interaction, you're validating and accepting this treatment as being okay. When it's not.
So this idea that it's all a "test," is the answer to the WRONG damn question. The point is that anyone who's being an asshole, is failing the basic test of decency. Now maybe they're acting that way because they've had a bad day or maybe you were unintentionally awkward or something. Doesn't matter. If she's acting that way, SOMETHING is wrong. Like you either need to leave her alone or she's got damage that you shouldn't have to put up with unless you want to adopt that same damage into yourself.

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i still suck at this because i am the newbie but getting physical and even a bit rough can pay off because you are giving the message that YOU are the fucking man.....so pay attention to it and correct what you need to.....

If people don't read this all the way through, they could get themselves in trouble. Physical escalation definitely requires calibration, as you seem to be saying.

But if anyone here reads this and just comes away with the idea that they need to just "be the fucking man," and accidentally commits sexual assault, that would obviously be a terrible outcome. It really does need to be both sides of the coin. We need to be confidently going for what we want, but also capable of perceiving what others want. Not only so we can do things that excite people, but so we can back off when they don't want it.

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cultivate your resources. if that means you can provide her with drink / smoke, that's one way, if it means good company or partying or fun, that's another. girls want FUN, as much as the white knights would have you believe they need to be treated completely like disney princesses. they gain their energy from their surroundings (you and whatever you do with her). keep that in mind

Couple things:

Well, everyone wants fun.
Cultivating resources is arguably not so much for providing her with stuff, but for providing YOU with a better life. (A better life that arguably involves a social life that brings you into contact with women, or is fun to share with someone you're dating, or whatever.)
Everyone gains energy from their surrounds, not just women.
And overall, this should never be just about what you're offering her. She should be offering something in the interaction other than just showing up. And I don't mean sex. I mean like good company, conversation, fun, whatever. It's not all on the guy to craft this sort of life experience. If we, as men, buy into this idea, we are asking for interactions where we are being used, and used by women who offer little in return for all the work they require.

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oh and then after all this i find out she has only had sex 3 times in her life (she is 18), is really self conscious about her body so she wouldnt even take her shirt off ....but she let me finger her so.... but the point is, you CANNOT be intimidated by girls....even the most intimidatingly attractive or alpha ones. 9/10 times they are insecure and just fronting.

The lesson here is that all the game you had, led to a girl who was broken. A girl who was also gaming you; she had you thinking she was on some other level and you were really in above your head or something, and then she was THAT inexperienced.

She's the female version of the guy who fronts and misrepresents himself to try to "get" a girl that he doesn't think he's worthy of.

So yeah, being intimidated by girls really is pointless, but that doesn't mean that "9 times out of 10 she's going to be insecure and fronting." It means that girls you gamed, the way you were gaming that girl, are going to be insecure and fronting. You were unintentionally screening for the kind of girl you got.

So it's good that you're evaluating what you've done and are making adjustments. Many of us have gone through these sorts of things. The mistake is to assume that the girls we end up reflect on ALL girls. Instead of realizing that the way we put ourselves out there, determines what we can get back.

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....if she sees you are intimidated by HER, god forbid you ever are with her and come across an aggressive guy because then it will just seem like you will be a bitch then too. basically, be a fucking man. lol

I mean, there is no real competition in this sort of thing. If you're in good with a girl, then the response to an aggressive guy would be that you come together as a team on the matter.

But if she's the kind of girl who'd toss you aside for the "upgrade" to an "aggressive guy," then that just tells you about what kind of person she is, and it's not flattering or attractive.

Title	Shit testing and kino thoughts
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Upvotes	7
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Date	September 19, 2018 10:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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