Shy PUA

Afeni02 · 2013-09-10T03:15:19+00:00

Nope. Dude, i used to be a very shy guy and hated it, I always lived in my head too much, I always over-analyzed situations, I had very low self esteem despite being an attractive guy IMO, girls always hit on me ever since kindergarden but I only had like 4 or 5 girlfriends at age 18 because I just didn't have the confidence. There's good news though, confidence can be learned bro. Honestly, with me, i cant pinpoint an "event" or occasion that gave me confidence, it was a gradual process.

MINDSET first, get the word shy out of your vocabulary. You are what you think. If you say you're shy well fuck, you're gonna be shy, if you say your a fun, outgoing person thats open to new experience and new people, thats what you're gonna be (fake it til you make it/become it. Watch the tedex talk by Amy Cudy about body language, actions speak louder than words.) You're probably not shy, you're probably just an introvert with low self esteem (that's what I was, I always thought I was just shy but in reality I was just an introvert with low confidence)
Body language smile! Seriously, practice smiling in your mirror very frequently. All my life i used to think that smiling is gay, smiling at a guy is gay, i used to think smiling was just girly. but a guy who is smiling and looking like hes enjoying himself shows that he is comfortable with himself and believes in himself, it's very attractive. Don't underestimate your smile, try to change the way you hold your face, don't look depressed or serious, smile to show that you are comfortable. Be an expert in body language (again, watch the Amy Cudy tedx if you still haven't) Fix your posture, walk proud, keep your head up like your nose is bleeding, have "open" body language.
Social Proof befriend EVERYBODY! I don't care if its a fat chick, an old man sitting on a bench or the little kid from down the street (although you might need to be careful on that one) Chat up everybody, when you pass people, look them in the eye, smile and greet, you'll be surprised how many people don't make eye contact/look at the ground/look at you like wtf? IF people don't greet you back, don't take it personally, keep smiling and greet the next person. (A good video to watch about this is David Wygant's elevator talk, youtube it, can't link) Go out and meet new people, form relationships, I know this sounds hard right now but it's very doable, just greet everyone be friendly, be the guy that knows everybody and is cool with everyone, social proof is very attractive.
Self Improvement Focus on yourself, do you. Actively seek out to become the best version of yourself. Dress nicely, workout, pickup a new hobby, read, learn new things, seek out new experiences, face your fears, don't waste, Carpe Diem!

Notice how I didn't mention a single thing about girls. You must learn how to improve yourself and fix your flaws before even thinking about gaming a girl. Gaming girls will come naturally with all the confidence you acquire through the points I made above.

To close, I'd like to share with you a quote that changed my life.

The Zyzz mindset

"Everybody, one day will die, and be forgotten. Act and behave in a way that will make life interesting and fun, fuck a mundane predictable life working monday to friday with something you derive no pleasure from; just living life out till you grow old and wither away. Find a passion, form relationships, dont be afraid to get out there and fuck what everyone else thinks, trust me its alot more fun that way. Dont ever pay people out or put people down. Instead just put yourself up and let the haters do their thing. Id rather be a person thats hated on, than a person that does the hating. A wise man one said.. Haters gonna hate!"

Zyzz

FeministsLoveMe · 2013-09-10T02:49:19+00:00

to put it simply, no

think of this while you put yourself out there more and more:

the moments you're outside of your comfort zone are the moments you're doing something new and are truly living

xecuter88 · 2013-09-10T12:21:26+00:00

Well, are you shy, or just introverted? Those are separate things, shy people have a fear of other people, while introverted people are more inside their head, and tend to be overstimulated by to much social contact. You can also be both.

It is possible to be a introverted PUA, but not shy, as it forces you to do everything you are avoiding as a shy person.

bp2132 · 2013-09-10T03:19:50+00:00

Im just getting started in PUA. I feel that my "inner game" is very good. When I look in the mirror, I am happy with what I see, and I think, "Damn, what girl wouldn't wanna date me."

I just started my freshman year of college, the opportunities will never be better. I just have to get over this hump of being shy.

Title	Shy PUA
Author	bp2132
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	September 10, 2013 1:05 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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