Smiling too much?

recyclablebantha · 2015-06-19T06:18:14+00:00

Sometimes i smile too much .

Too much? You should smile when you WANT. That's it. If you don't something funny or amusing or it doesn't inspire you to smile, then DON'T smile. You don't need to. But that doesn't mean that you have a choice between smile and frowny serious pants face.

I think it hurts my chances.

If you are straining to smile, that's fake and the worst kind of compliance.

Sometimes im just chatting away smiling laughing forget to do the sexual tension or the kino on the first date. Or maybe im not feeling it at all?? Sometimesit is hard to tell so fast

Sexual tension and kino..... it's not some series of steps. You should be comfortable slowly closing in over time. And if you have a good feeling about the girl, then you should be able to share excitement through touch. Like something funny can give you an opening to touch in some way like a gentle arm jab or hug/side-hug, or some other opening salvo. These things are low level and her reaction to those things lets you know how welcome you are and how open she is to you in general.

I think its important to just be easy and comfortable.... not escalating in the first hour or tw or even date. Sometimes i escalate too fast and it can backfire too

It's not a rule that it's important to not escalate in the first hour. Some girl may give you the signal that she wants to escalate early. What are you going to do, ignore it and shut things down, even if you like that girl? It's a matter of PAYING ATTENTION, not finding some rule that applies to every girl. There's not some list of things that girls do to show this or that thing.

It's all about HOW girls do a thing. To understand this, you have to have your attention on her and the big picture, or you'll miss the meaning as you try to run calculations in your head.

ihateusernames12345 · 2015-06-19T04:15:39+00:00

smiling too much, especially on dates should never be a bad thing!! but what do you mean by backfiring? i think just being the most open and "you" as possible is key. obviously to a certain extent but you dont want to try too hard.

Title	Smiling too much?
Author	ohsnapt
Upvotes	3
Comments	2
Date	June 19, 2015 2:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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