I frequently find myself in that position of trying to initiate a conversation but suddenly blank out. I want to make it so that theres not much content, just to let her get a feeling of comfort around me. But the problem is that I keep trying to banter without talking about myself or making her talk about herself, just to engage her in a conversation, but I have a hard time coming up with topics. What advise can you guys give me? Any sources for ideas?