Some success stories?

MCMalaiz · 2018-09-23T13:57:43+00:00

1) Don't forget that if someone tell its story, it will be far from objective even if try to be objective.

Let's take two guys : A and B. A is the first guy that you describe and B the second.

What would be interesting is to be told the story of them from "people they know" 's perspective.

Like the story of A from the four girls, his friends, ... Same from B.

At the end, we would just see that A is not as successful as he thinks he is and B is better that he thinks he is.

Moreover A could just invent all his story.

2) The definition of success is different from an individual to another. Someone you see as successful wouldn't see himself as successful because your definition of success is not his own definition of success (He may even see YOU as successful)

For example, C is successful academically and sucks in dating, the inverse for D. Chances that C sees D successful and D sees C successful. Grass is always green on the other side

3) (Can work as TL;DR) What I understand more and more is that everyone is just as lost as you in life and have their own problem.

tillthebill · 2018-09-23T15:44:30+00:00

I think I know how you feel and it sucks. Big time. I have felt like that many a days of my life. But this frustration and pain is part of life and part of growth. Without it, there would be nothing to overcome. And adversity is the only chance for growth. I was convinced fot many years of my life, that I was totally unacttractive, a loser and would never ever find love. And I hated feeling like that. And I pityed myself for my fate. Until I grew tired of being sad and picked my sad ass up to give myself some fair kicks in the butt. Something I also have to do from time to time to this day. I think what helped me getting layed mosly was my determination, my looks and that I am an artist. And I don't mean pick up artist. I am an opera singer. I make my living doing that. But I wasn't that starting out. When I was 14 , I was chubby, a loner , got severly bullied and girls were absolutely inaproachable beings not the least interested in me. Or so i thought, and for most of them that was absolutely true. Also I didn't like myself very much, and that is by far the most unattractive thing anyone can be. What helped me was getting in shape, first and foremost. I found American Football (growing up in Germany this is still a very minor sport, the number one by far is soccer and I suck at that) and that helped my to loose almost 40 pounds of fat and put on some muscles. Nowadays I am not that in shape anymore, but I never went back to being fat. Then I discovered theatre and music were my thing. For the first time I found likeminded people and a place and activity I was truely good at. Practicing singing and rehearsing with others gave my the ability to focus on something and get better at it, by the grinding and unpleasent duty of doing it everyday. That's pretty much what it comes down to for me. If you want to get layed a lot and attract attractive partners, you yourself HAVE to be attracive. Being attractive comes from feeling good about your body, your mind, your social circle, your family, your career and your prospects. Obviously from time to time one or more of these pillars will be a bit shaky. And the stronger you build the others, the less it bothers you. So you have to search for the activitys, places, people and occupations that suit you the best. It's as much about hard work as it is about finding the right match. And that is true for live and dating and seduction. When I had nothing to offer I didn't have any confidence at all. How could I? I obviously couldn't get confidence by scoring girls, because they wouldn't want me and also I was too afraid of rejection. So I had to find something where I did feel confident, and that made my less afraid of failure. Whatever that might be, for me it was music and performing. When you step out in front of other people onto a stage often enough, getting rejected is less scary and hurtful. It still sucks though... Anyway I have slept with more women than I was able to keep track off, I have been in a nine year relationship with a gorgeous actress and model and I still sometimes felt unattractive and have no game. What I want to say is this: how you feel now, will never go away. It won't be there always (or else you should see a doctor), but it will come back eventually. Enjoy the process, enjoy the ride, enjoy the pain. It shows that you are on the way and you are making progress. Unless the frustration comes from sitting on your hands all day. If you are working towards your goals and you are putting in the hours, then this good. It took me a long time to become the man I am today. And it was a lot of hard work. And when I look back on where I started it fills me with pride, what I have achieved. But I still feel like a fault sometimes. And that means I am still developing.

Title	Some success stories?
Author	greenday5494
Upvotes	9
Comments	5
Date	September 23, 2018 1:03 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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