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[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Learn by doing, failing, and readjusting. Like the other commenter said. You don't know what to do because you're not practicing. Start practicing first. When you fail, that's when you'll have some better questions to ask than "I don't know what to say, help me" you'll instead ask good questions like "I did X and girl reacted Y, why did that happen?"
[–]pua_max 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Practice and reflect on loop. Kill your fears by effort. I’m actually running an experiment right now for this. I just moved to a new city. I have no social support network. I want to prove to myself that I can build a social circle and a group of women who want me from scratch, even during covid. It’s going overall well, although there are hiccups.
[–]EricJr123456 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Okay, I get this. But give me an example. You go to a bar/club, what do you do? You initiate, in what ways do you usually initiate?
[–]pua_max 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve actually wanted to do my experiment only by cold approach. Bars and clubs aren’t really my scene. Clubs are pretty easy imo. There’s not really any finesse required, just displays of balls. I usually go up, dance a bit, take her hand, give her a twirl, and escalate. Bars... idk. I’d imagine similar to cold approach but I go to bars so little I can’t say.
[–]pettingheavy 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe think of it less as “making a move” and more like mingling. You overhear some women talking about a place you’ve been to, and insert a comment about how you’ve been to that place and if they’ve been to “insert local attraction”. I really enjoy wine so If I see someone ordering wine I’ll ask what wine they ordered and inquire about the depth of their wine knowledge or interest. It’s a warmer approach than “what’s your sign?” And you get an idea of someone’s willingness to chat and maintain a convo with you.
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