Speaking up, need help.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-08-18T02:08:41+00:00

Guess what? Those people aren't focused on whether you are saying something stupid. They're too busy worrying if they might say something stupid.

You don't need to be the most fun person in the room, the smoothest talker, the most interesting person they know. You just have to be better than the average guy. That is not a very high hurdle to get over. Even if you're just better than average, strangers welcome you, because you're probably better than that last stranger, and better than the next stranger to come along.

SegaTakai · 2012-08-18T02:30:17+00:00

I have amazing news, and you're not going to believe me. All of those little cliques (your geek, jock, whatever) are going to evaporate halfway through your senior year. Every single one of you guys is terrified of becoming an adult and you're all going to be in that together. The jocks are going to start being nicer to the geeks, the popular girls might start talking to the goths (or...scene kids or whatever the stoner demographic is these days).

Which means that if you just start talking to everyone, you'll know everyone. And yes, that's absurdly hard. Painfully hard. I don't know you, so you're going to have to supply an example, but take something you're good at. Playing guitar, drawing cartoons, rock climbing, tying fucking awesome boy scout knots...whatever. I know you're pleased with how good you are at something. You got that good because you practiced. And at first, it was shitty and you hated how bad you were at it, but you got better with practice.

Talking to strangers is a skill, and you will get better at it and right now is probably the best time to start. Pick strangers for lab partners or for group projects. Tell that girl you have a crush on that you like her shirt. Worst case, you never have to see any of these people again next year if you don't want to.

Title	Speaking up, need help.
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Comments	4
Date	August 17, 2012 11:53 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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