If you’re struggling to attract the women you truly desire, the first step is to be honest with yourself. What’s missing from your game? What is holding you back?

Is it your conversation skills? Approach anxiety? Beliefs about what you look like? Beliefs about how you present yourself?

The list may be long or it may be short. The beauty is that the length of the list doesn’t matter. That’s because you don’t need to fix everything on the list in order to improve your game.

To start, all you need to do is pick 1 thing off the list and improve that. Improving just 1 thing can make a world of difference.

Starting with just 1 thing also makes the goal of improving your game feel achievable. If you think that you need to improve everything on your list all at once, it will feel overwhelming and can cause you to ultimately do nothing.

So start with 1 thing. Focus all your energy on improving that for a set period of time. For example, if you see “starting a conversation with a woman” on your list,” spend the next two weeks focusing only on improving your skills around starting conversations. Find openers you like and start practicing. If necessary, start practicing with any person, not just women you find attractive. Starting a conversation with anyone isn’t really much different than starting a conversation with an attractive woman. So practicing with any person will warm you up.

Once you start seeing improvement in the first thing, pick another thing off your list. After you’ve improved 2 or 3 things, you may realize those are the only things you need to improve. Those things may be enough. Because you don’t need to be perfect to attract hot women. You just need to improve the key things that are keeping you stuck.

Kaizen brothers.