What's the most powerful of the 2?

You often read on game forums (especially this sub) ''what you say doesn't matter''

At the same time though, we are told to 'learn game'. (some see that as a contradiction)

I can only assume they're talking about things like 'push pull', 'teasing', disqualifying the girl, negs, etc (so that actually kind of implies what you say DOES matter, but whatever)

But what's the most powerful?

You are talking too a girl in a bar who doesn't think you're very handsome or whatever, but you want to 'game' her. You want her.

What is gonna do most of the heavy lifting and make her attracted to you?

The sum-commnucations? (strong eye contact etc) or the verbals? (remembering to use a pushpull line or whatever)