Been lurking for a couple weeks now. Glad I have been.
I've always considered myself an introvert. My bad back and eye injury (got a stick in my right eye when I was four. Should have lost the damn thing. Luckily did not but now it's essentially useless) have been keeping in that realm for a LONG while. I suppose since my last gf (almost 5 years now). Whenever I've seen women glancing my way or ever got the sense that they were staring my way on purpose, I would get paranoid and believe all they were doing is checking out all of my flaws.
All of that bullshit is slowly dissipating. I'm pretty sure at least. Bear in mind, this shirt story will not be filled with any kinda closes or crazy occurrences or anything like that. It is what it is. Went out with a group of close friends last night. Swung by two bars for a bit before we ended on the third where I had some success. Before we hit the third bar, I had been trying all night to take some baby steps. Scooping out the area whenever I went into a new room, good posture, smile on my face, trying to talk myself up in my head and get that confidence up, and above all else keeping eye contact with chicks if they gave it to me. Finally ended up sitting down by an open window of one of the buildings that the bars property was on. People are dancing in there some a good mix of electro and hip-hop. I was feeling that, so I stayed close by while my friends went back and forth from the table all night. Noticed two chicks who I had seen across the bar from when I first walked in. Kept trying to eye them up while not looking obvious (very hard to do since my right eye is almost uselss and they were to my right). After a track song was over, built up the confidence, told myself 'fuck it' and got both of them to get close to the window and talked them up for a little while. I was proud of myself for being able to hold the convo with them for so long. Finally told them I was gonna go sit back down but I'd prolly be in the in a second. As soon as I sit back down, one of my roommates is seeing whats up. Give him the jist. We both come to the conclusion that us two singles dudes need to go in there and chat them up some more. Unfortunately, I barely missed them as they were heading out into the crowd. Didn't end up seeing them until they were leaving.
See, nothing that exciting, but hell, I was still on cloud 9 the rest of the night. Hammered, satisfied enough, and overall had a great time.
I went over the night in my head, made my best effort to realize what I did right, what I did wrong, and where I need to improve.
I'm tryin guys. Basically what I wanna get out is that the resources and knowledge I'm absorbing from this subreddit is helping me out, and it's actually showing.
*tl;dr - finally broke out of my shell sorta speak. talked up a pair of girls. got my confidence soaring. many thanks for the resources and knowledge
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