First off, my goal isn't hooking up, but to find a relationship. I've lurked this subreddit a lot more for motivation to put myself out there rather than actual techniques. There is an area I need some help on, though. See, I am the type of person who likes to be very involved in my significant other's life, and I want them to be the same. The problem is, I tend to start acting like this early on. When I meet a girl I'm excited about, I get emotionally invested in her quickly. I text her often, and try to see her whenever I can. As most of you have probably already guessed, this behavior tends to drive women away. About a month ago, I was talking to a girl I was interested in. I know by now the signs that a girl is losing interest in you (one word responses, too busy to hang out, etc.) and she was showing them. So, I took a friend's advice and cut off all communication with her. I actually forgot about her until yesterday when she texted me. This time around, I switched teams. I took a while to respond to her (I was legitimately busy) and had mostly short responses. She, on the other hand, seemed very interested. After a few messages, I mentioned a movie I wanted to see and said she should go with me. She has already seen this movie, but said she wanted to go. We set the date for saturday and I stopped texting her. Now for my question. What is a healthy amount of texting? I want to keep the playing field even, rather than become super beta like I usually do. I don't want her to think I'm uninterested, though. I know the advice on here for texting is usually just to use it for setting up dates only, but if the date is a week away should I contact her every now and then? TL;DR: I have a date this weekend. How frequently can I text her without appearing clingy?