There is a common dilemma: Do I text a girl I just met or do I call her? While there is no right answer, I believe I have found the best of both worlds, and it is to strategically do both.

When I meet a girl and get her phone number I immediately text her off the bat. This way she has my number in her phone. This is important because when I call her I want her to answer because she already has me in her contacts.

Text only logistics. Anything else is a waste of your valuable time and risks putting her off. This is a rule I hold fast too. The only exception to this rule I make is the very first text, when I ask her about something in order to gauge her interest. Here is an example text conversation that obviously didn't happen in real life but demonstrates my point:

*Me: It's the beautiful Arya! How is modeling? -heretogetbetter

Her: Modeling is great! I am so pretty.

Me: Thursday at 7pm, are you free for drinks at Sexy Place

Her: Sure I would love to :)

Me: Great I can't wait to see you*

You want her to get used to hearing from you on both mediums of text and phone. Usually the day before I call her to confirm we are on. I always call with a purpose. When I call I do like to chat, and it usually lasts between 10 to 15 minutes. If I am not feeling it I will just say that I wanted to confirm we were on.

A 10 minute phone call is way more valuable than a 10 minute texting conversation. Texting is impersonal and dry, while conversing helps seal your presence in her life.

If she doesn't answer the phone I leave a message asking if we are still on.

Warning: she is not your best friend. Do not treat her like your best friend. I look at texting and phone conversation like a chess game: each move is deliberate and strategic.

I love holidays. They are the perfect reason to call a girl. For example, tonight is New Years, so I called all the girls in my contact list wishing them a happy New Years. This was my purpose in calling them. They thought it was sweet and genuinely appreciated it.

Good luck and remember: it is better to say less and cultivate an air of mystery than be overheard and obnoxious.