Hey Seddit, I turn 21 tomorrow and I just wanted to thank-you for giving me the resources to show me how my behaviour was actually limiting my full potential. The first time I came to this forum was July 2011, 2 months before University started and I had just gotten home from a party being demotivated how I couldn't get any action (me being a virgin and all, which looking back was the least of my worries). After that I became more engrossed in what the sidebar had to say and found the text liberating because I wasn't expressing my manhood properly - no sports, female friends who came to me cause I was easy to talk to, ashamed of who I was. I still have a lot to learn but I have definitely expanded out of my comfort zone and other people see it too.

1) I stopped seeking approval of others 2) I stopped being toxic when I faced rejection in academics, internship opportunities, everything else essentially 3) I started being honest with myself about my efforts and commitments to goals and people 4) I stopped stigmatizing sexuality - coming from a culture-oriented family this was a huge barrier, which ultimately helped me understand others better 5) I understood that some of the biggest barriers to success with women and life aren't external but internal obstructions

So tomorrow I will be celebrating with people I can genuinely say care about me and my friends at the club and want to thank-you for showing me what brotherhood (albeit through an online forum) could look like. It's my b-day but I will secretly treat it as a milestone. I still have a lot to learn but am confident I am treading the right path.

Cheers!