I used to have so many issues with women, and when I'd finally get a girl I would work so hard to make it work I'd cede all power in our relationship to her. The girls I was dating were not that attractive either.

Now I'm the life of the parties and guys everywhere are telling me how awesome I am to hang with and girls are hanging all over me. I've truly gotten to the point where they have to impress me with more than looks. I'm having so much fun it's awesome. I'm busy as hell, but Im still working on fitting in some sort of dates/plans with 3 girls I met this weekend.

For the really new people, this subreddit is extremely helpful. At the party last night, this girl partnered with me for Beer Pong and she was all over me and I didnt even have to try. At the same time, I was watching a guy who was definitely more physically attractive than me but was clearly too needy and too insecure The girl he was partnered with was so turned off by him. I went to this party and I had little to no social proof at the beginning (only knew 5 people out of a good 70 or so) and still had no problems making things happen... Because of the details it was impossible for me to escalate too far last night, but it's ok, I've got plans with her later this week.

Anyways, last night I was talking to a girl who had a boyfriend and we started having a serious discussion about the guy who clearly had no game and why he struggles (I know her and she is good friends with him). It was at that moment I realized something that I haven't seen here that I think is a pretty valuable concept that has helped me a lot:

When I flirt with a girl, it's a competition between the two of us to determine who needs the other less while getting closer physically. When I win that competition is when the girl can't keep her hands off me. If you have an abundance of options (even if it's only the mentality), this is really easy to pull off.

What I can still improve: I still need to get more physical. Im great at getting a girl's number and occasionally good at getting the k-close, but I still have not had an f-close without a date(s). It seems the more "reckless" I am, the more successful I am. I think if I take that to an even higher level I will continue to have more success.