Here is the contents of personal file I have been keeping updated - after I started learning about pick-up, people and mostly girls and women - on looking for qualities and things to consider when considering and choosing high quality women from the totality of single women available. I hope some may find it useful.

NOTE :

  • This is just an assortment(by no means exhaustive and all-inclusive) of ideas and conversation topics, questions to ask to screen women taken from different sources and peopke (some of whom you might know if you are regular here) whom I am eternally thankful for writing,commenting and sharing about it. Mainly drawn here from /r/seduction and other forums,books and websites.

  • Hence the whole post might not be congruent and can be contradictory at times. Please bear with it since this is not totally my personal viewpoint.

  • This is very specifically localized to suit my contents.i.e Indian in India, age only in mid-twenties and which conforms(quirky things peculiar to foreign cultures etc) what might be okay in Indian society for my profession. So choose what suits your conditions accordingly. Wanted to edit it to generalize, but I thought I might miss nuances that others might be interested too, hence abandoned the idea.

  • Some of the points that I have personally added aren't expanded. If you want some more thinking behind it and clarifications, I will gladly answer .

  • I am sure it is very unlikely I will get a person who satisfies all the criteria. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't look for one who will have it all since here in /r/seduction, when we try to improve as a total person we also think that think we deserve the best the world as to offer.

  • That's it. The content follows.

MAJOR ADVICE

  • A women is the costliest item ever one buys from the market if you choose to spend a significant amount of time with anyone.

Robert Glover in No More Mr. Nice Guy says to look for :

  • Passion
  • Integrity
  • Happiness
  • Intelligence
  • Sexual assertiveness
  • Financial responsibility
  • Commitment to personal growth

Unattractive characteristics(highly subjective)

Overweight, unmotivated, Depressed, Drug use, Smoking, Boozer, Mean Spirited, and worst of all entitled

Mark Manson says:

  • One thing that is absolutely non negotiable..that is.. The ability to see ones own flaws and be accountable for them.

  • Drop all games and pretenses

  • Develop a nose for needy behaviour

  • Establish zero tolerance policy for emotional manipulation

From Mystery's book

  • An attractive woman who takes care of herself.

  • A woman who is sociable and has friends.

  • A woman who has thrist for life.

  • A woman who has great energy and a positive outlook.

  • A woman who is in touch with her own sensuality; she is not a baby anymore.

  • A woman who can seek her own fulfillment instead of waiting for approval from her friends.

  • A classy and smart woman with an education.

  • A woman who is adventurous and has great imagination.

OTHER MINOR ADVICE AND SUGGESTIONS

Taleb says marry a person or hire a person if you have one reason

Values ...curiosity education intelligence authenticity

Doesn't value fake looks such as pounds of makeup bronzer hair extensions or super tight skirts

Before doing the real talk.

She should see the bubbly exciting life loving side of you.. Who is also romantic..witty..intelligent..fashionable

Likes - ambition, respect,strong family ties,open minded socially liberal,traveller, can have intellectual discussion

Dislike - cynicism,negativity,dishonesty,lack of career goals,no political or worldly interests. Can hold only thin conversation

Ask questions,based on above qualities to filter,people actively

Curves in the right place speaks of good child bearing genes and good rearing too

THINGS TO NOTE

  • speaking my mother tongue preferably

  • Mastery in a field..exceptionally preferred..as it checks patience

  • 3 important interests in common and common life goals..make this a major criteria almost non negotiable

  • Has a consistent interest and practice in an activity daily..it can of course be in the mastery mentioned previously

  • Not a single child of both alive parents preferably (evidence from scientific psychological studies)

  • Should be capable of being best friend in future in addition to someone you want to sleep with

  • What is that she value most in life

  • Why does she want to marry/ have relationship

  • Craziest thing done

  • Dislike something earlier but later found useful ..anything? Why?

  • Strongest identity other than name..in decreasing order

  • Respect for poor.unfortunate..compassionate

  • Objective in her judgments

  • Openness to experience

  • Strive for personal growth..in last one month..one year and 3 years how has she changed for Good and bad in life

  • Last time she was wrong and contradicted and later she realised it was wrong

  • Opinion on children and elderly like her parents..nuclear family ..staying with in laws

  • Childhood experiences

  • Unlimited money.. 3 items what she would spend on??

  • Consumerism trait by asking how many things she uses..also has bought but bot used

  • Did you travel? What have you learnt from it

  • What is the craziest thing you find personally in other people and in life

  • Any goals she set for herself..but failed miserably..what was the reason

  • Any goals she set for herself..succeeded..why

  • Financially supported it managed anything..average monthly budget at min she can sustain...

  • Her monthly and yearly recurring purchases and any person you support /gift Recurringly

  • Why do you want to live??? Any aim or life dream.?...

  • Check dishonesty authenticity and honesty by asking if she cheated or robbed anyone

  • What are her hobbies??

  • Not carried away by superficiality in terms of clothes..outward appearances

  • Last thing she was curious about madly??

  • How many enemies or hate someone..why??

  • When was the last time she said no to a persuader

  • Give up a task easily because of boredom or difficulty

  • 5 most happy moments in life

  • Do a cube test on her

  • 5 most sad moments

  • Simplicity

  • Opinion on education

  • What do think reason some people are happy and healthy have positive outlook??is it a distant dream and always achievable??

  • Sociable and has friends

  • How Do you personally want to achieve nirvana and in what??

  • One time she went against majority opinion and was vindicated

  • Can friends become relatives?? Is vice versa possible?

  • Value she is ready to fight for

  • Check adventurous nature and imagination

  • Good family background and good filial ties

  • Should look good..Decidable in first 3 seconds

  • is modernity vanity??

  • Should not look down upon household chores..does she know cooking..is she willing to learn it?/ what is her opinion on normal routine household work..

  • Good height

  • Pay for luxury expenses on her own money..after pooling in agreed upon money first together previously agreed upon

  • Early Retirement Extreme approach mentality ..few needs mentality if any???

  • From book millionaire next door.. Wife more conservative about money than husband

  • How organized and neat is she..?? Observe bedroom unexpectedly etc..

  • What are her saving habits?? Has she saved any money for something for a good amount for time??

  • What makes a good marriage?

  • What constitutes long term happiness and short term happiness

  • How healthy.. Has eaten good food..any previous genetic disease.. Where was she born and conceived.?? Any genetic abnormalities..?? I'd deviation from mean why so???

  • Check her slim genes.. Comparing to her family

  • Adjustment nature.. Any co habitation experience like hostel, roommates with others etc(some rich girls never do that, for example)

  • Expectations on eating out in a month..cooking food daily at home..interested in cooking?

  • Do you like a hot blooded girl or a soothing one? Choose depending on What your job is

  • Vegetables and fruits -likes them very important factor...

  • Everybody has on weakness or things one finds hard to resist. Like food sleep etc.. What is yours??

  • Sexual health and practices.. don't ask for numbers but just a yes or no question and then to get tested...

  • Would you tolerate negative behaviour of your partner if it displayed by your best friend?? Ask this question always..

From Mark Manson's post which he finds okay to live with..

Flaws in her that I think I will adjust and find comfortable

• Slightly neurotic • Workaholic • A bit pushy • Vain about herself • Blames herself too much • A bit of honest and outright with her intentions and emotions

If a billionaire has the brains to make a billion, je also has the brilliance to look for things other than just looks...

  • Get in writing that dowry if given (big thing here in India) was voluntarily given and video evidence any be.

  • Doctor reports are preserved.

  • "Many a men in love with a girls dimple make a mistake by marrying the whole girl."

  • Interested in being house wife or bit of more leaning towards cleaning

  • No addictions...drugs..drinks.smoke..shopping..

  • Look for self control and good self esteem

  • Insecurities????

  • Good Will Hunting Robing William's advice...Nobody is perfect. Are we perfect for Each other ???

  • Previous medical complications and preconditions .. If possible.. Take a test...

  • Describe the present environment or the summary of the interaction in a paragraph in your words.. Say it is to look at handwriting .. Also notice the style..punctuation.grammar.spelling..word usage..education is useless unless it is practised.

  • Tell me about you childhood memories??

  • You like father or mother?? Why??

  • Sibling memories??

  • How was you school life??

  • How was your college life??

  • Life after college??

  • Include some questions from that deep rapport 36 questionnaire by Arthur Aron

Idea : Investigating agencies for background checks

Idea : Showing up unannounced at 7 am in morning..to see what really people are and how they look.

Idea : If previous r/ship, okay. How many? Broke Why? Listen to her side of the story and ex too.. Make your own conclusion. Do you see a pattern etc??

The big four conflicts in any marriage are money, sex, religion, and in-laws. My wife and I “interviewed” each other while we were engaged. We talked about all this stuff to avoid being surprised later. Those few hours we spent having these very serious (although weird) discussions have prevented an unbelievable amount of frustration and fights over the last 15 years. Yes, people change, and no, you can’t predict the future. But just because your crystal ball is a little cloudy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look into

First is to make sure both of you have realistic expectations. Reading this blog or my book is a great way to understand that while physicians absolutely do make a lot of money, it isn’t a bottomless well of cash directly connected to Scrooge McDuck’s diving board.

Clean the room. Good girls don't like messy places. Any girl that might is messy in her head

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/3k13tm/what_would_you_consider_a_green_flag_in_a/

It's not all doom and gloom though. You CAN find quality, long term relationship girls out there, but they are few and far between. In my opinion, don't just look at physical beauty when finding a long term partner. Looks are fleeting, people can change them too... go to the gym, workout, eat better. It's much better to look for women whom you actually have solid real chemistry with. Sexually and in everyday life. Yes, physical attraction is still 100% necessary too, but go beyond that. Also look for a woman who wants you to succeed. You should want her to succeed. Both of you should be continuously pushing each other. I feel this rarely happens in today's day and age. People peak around their early 30's and it's all downhill from there. Another key is to find a girl who actually has hobbies and passions in life. It's mostly the ones who just watch Netflix and walk their dog (which is MOST of them) whom want a guy to provide everything for them. Find a girl with a plan and passions. .... with that said, this is why you need to date around and learn skills with women. It's about finding a compatible partner in the end for both of you. When you're off you game, she's unhappy and it doesn't work. Get on yours and find someone on theirs. Exponentially grow from there and win at the game of life.

From https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3pku5y/i_have_had_5_different_women_in_the_past_year_say/

If a girl isn't giving you butterflies or making your blood hot in some way, then she definitely isn't worth your time.

Also see http://marriage.about.com/od/premaritaltests/a/questionstoask.htm