I realize I have a problem with dating. The problem is I'm always waiting for women to show outward interest in me. If I don't see that interest, I would never ask her out or escalate romantically. The truth is that a man can detect a woman's level of interest. Sometimes even an engaging conversation isn't enough. You have detect the way she looks at you, her body language, her level of enthusiasm. If I can't detect this, I would assume that a woman only wants friendship. Any escalation would just be too forceful and awkward. In fact, it sometimes feel wrong, almost like you taking advantage of her friendship and company. So I keep it at friendship, until anything escalates from her end.

I know this means endless waiting and hear everyone who says you shouldn't wait. However, I believe the simple hard truth is a man has to wait for a woman to show some interest.. any interest. If an average or unattractive man doesn't get this from a woman, it is simply tough luck.

So why the title? Well, the reason I use dating apps is to avoid this. Because any match or conversation she initiates is already an indication that she might be interested to an limited extent. Dating apps means you avoid making assumptions, detecting interest, avoiding the early awkward initiation stages. You jump right into finding compatibility.