(Basically, the alpha-beta thing is a bit retarded so I put it in quotas. For simplicity sake, I'll use the "beta" who is bad with women.)

https://broadblogs.com/tag/female-sexual-alienation/

"Being desired is the orgasm.

That’s true for women, anyway. So says Marta Meana, who studies sexuality at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Women are most turned on by feeling irresistible to their lovers, she adds."

Get it now? It's your job to make her feel sexy, basically by just finding her sexy but not really making an effort to hide your feelings, because if you hide your desire, then obviously, she won't be able to feel sexy.

This is what beta's mostly do, they suppress their sexual feelings, then they get in a situation known as "friend zone", because obviously, romanticism involves feelings of all kind whereas a friend does not as it's just platonic. And this is what it seemed to the woman because you gave this impression. Then she rejects you because she can't just suddenly change her mind connections from friend to romantic. So in many cases it wasn't even about you, it was about her and you didn't make HER feel like she wanted to feel. Hence, not boyfriend or even make-out friend material. Why do alot of men get nervous when talking to an attractive woman? Because again, they were suppressing their emotions and the mere presence of the female specimen stands in the way of that agenda. Your instinct says "mate, mate, mate" and the nervousness you experience is merely your desire wanting to break loose. It's the same energy that comes from the GUT! Ofcourse you can't just mate with her because your instinct says so (that's what rapists do), but you can express your DESIRE to mate with her. If you're lucky, she's receptive and if you're not, then she isn't. There could be plenty of reasons for why she isn't, so don't dwell on it. It's stupid. And don't ask why she rejected you. It just smells of insecurity. Just accept it and move on, aka be a man, not a bitch.

The primary reason for suppressing your emotions is lack of confidence or trauma or who the hell knows. That's why they always say "increase your confidence" because then you should act more natural, which means more expressive of your emotions along with your desire, which is the most important one here.

The problem is a bit cultural too because modern men have been brought up in a culture that teaches it's bad and disrespectful to objectify women. This is bullshit because sexual energy is at the very core of life. What they got wrong was that it wasn't objectification that was the problem, it was men feeling superior over women and as a result treating her as NOTHING MORE than a lust object, not seeing her as human/equal too etc.. They just saw that bad men objectify women, and hence objectification must be bad right? Wrong, that's know as causation logical fallacy, since all men, including the good, objectify women. It's instinctually programmed. No matter how hard you try, even the biggest feminist cuck (just wanted to say that lol), you can never stop objectifying women, you can only hide it. (But even this is becoming increasingly difficult for me. Kind of funny how we can change. "Be yourself" is flawed because we're always changing. There is no yourself. The road of self-discovery as they call it is actually just gatherlng alot of experiences which change you. You didn't discover you, you just changed you.) So do women really want to live in a culture where men act like deceptive creeps instead of honest expressive men whose faces they can read so when they look in your eyes, they see themselves as a fiery goddess? I think not...

So this is why when you travel to Eastern Europe or something, your mind will often be blown to how hot the women are (even though they kinda have the same genetics...). This is because of the cultural gap, aka those women weren't brought up in our culture and as a result, they just act according to their biology, which is sexy (yet in a more classy than slutty way) because they want to feel sexy. And if it makes you feel good, then it's empowering... Many Western women are afraid to act this way because they have been taught to think that's self-objectifying and hence disempowering. Couldn't be further from the truth... As our cultures unite, we're going to see alot of changes, atleast I hope so, because imagine if every new generation having to deal with this crap again and again?