Edit1: I'm not English native so forgive mistakes. The following text are thoughts I wrote for personal guiding, not only on the path to get laid, but also in order to be a better person, based on my ideological perspective: objectivism.

What makes an individual (what you need to observe on people)

Ego: Self-esteem, auto insurance. Social: responsibility, power

Ego is the individualistic part of a person. It is what really matters after all. Ego is power, accepting and having control over yourself, understanding and having control over other people. (sexual life is key for power)

Social is the relationship your Ego has with other's Egos. The responsibility you carry as you interact with other people, and the power to have them around, control and keep relationships.

Social life is all based on your Ego, if you have a strong one you'll probably be around people with strong Egos as well. If can't even control and accept yourself, you can't understand and control other people, therefore you won't have strong personalities around you.

What makes a man (what you need to be)

High self-esteem, Auto insurance, (accept yourself) Responsibility over your actions Respect Sexual interactions Courage to break fear

Accepting yourself is about your Ego. You need to be sure of what you are that it is good, close to perfection. This also has to be your outside energy, what people will see when they look at you. Strong voice, posture, take care of yourself and never take things personal.

Responsibility over your actions makes you trustable. Everyone makes mistakes, but only real man have the balls to say "I made a mistake". Handle your shit, people will trust and want to be around you. Trustable people are also respectful. Treat well everyone around you, women, elders, teachers, your boss. Do not confuse this with being passive. Keep strong on your opinion and personality, you don't have to agree with everything, but you do need to accept the right the other has to express his opinions as well.

Sexual interactions are the result of everything you are, and also the most important thing you need in order to be a man. So grow yourself AND your sexual life together. Sexual life isn't only about sex, but every interaction you have with females. Power to seduce them, being able to talk to any woman, as well to take her home, makes you a better man.

(above were my personal thoughts, below my message for you all)

Creating the monster people want to be around

Social world doesn't cares at all for who you are inside, they only see the outside, and that's the key. If you're still reading this, your outside probably isn't much a thing, but people doesn't care about your good intentions, they want to see your good actions, that's what you need to work on.

Doing everything I said before isn't going to get you anywhere, that's your job, but without all this you probably won't get too far.

What I mean is, people don't only want to be treated respectful, they also want you to play the guitar for them, or talk about their favorite music style or book. You need to do things, otherwise you're just another one. Stop only consuming content and start creating. Write poems, learn a little bit about music, read about politics, watch popular movies and know trending musics. Those are only few things, so if you don't like movies or books you need something else to compensate.

Get out of your world and live, discover new things you like and new things you hate, create some stories for yourself -  by that I mean a crazy night out or an adventure like camping -, get to know things like good restaurants on your town, places you can talk about, invite people to or suggest them if asked.

I hope I could send my message, and that all this be part of the big change you (we)  are working on. I have my problems too, but I'm always working on it. That's everything I could realize in my journey, use it wisely.