What if it was only in your mind? What if the only limitations, set backs and downfalls where the ones you caused? What if everywhere you went, there you were? But what if it was impossible to change that?

It’s 2019 a day like any other and he sees her waiting for the train. She’s gorgeous, stunning and all the other big words he’d use to describe her to his boys. He looks but he can’t move. A loud noise and a gust wind passed him blowing her elegant hair.

Without a thought he enters the train and moves to his right toward her but just then, resistance sets in forcing him to sit in the least advantageous seat available. The distance close enough to still see her but seems like miles as resistance locks him in for the longest ride of his life.

Facebook, a text, Reddit, IG a few games and before he knows it, he’s home and she’s all but forgotten.

phone rings “hey bro! We’re headed to the bar. Ladies night! You down?!” The answer is obviously yes and he goes.

1yr later:

“Hey, I’m Joe. I just saw yo..........” It seems to be a constant outcome for him. 1200 approaches, 0 names, numbers, date and no sex. “I’m fucking ugly! That’s the only way” Salsa classes, the gym, yoga have failed him. He’s now “if it happens it happens” but makes no effort.

End scene:

Look, a lot of us have or are in that’s space so there’s no need to go on or add more detail. The point being that it freaking sucks. The mind can do awesome things but can equally, viciously and very often crush you. Changing your mindset is some much more difficult that it appears but it can be done. My hope for those in the space, is that you get out.

There’s hope on the other side. We’re all on the same journey. Good luck and may you achieve all that you desire.

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