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Tips on opening up

MintSoyLatte

December 1, 2018

2 upvotes

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Well I guess this problem of mine kinda stems for the fact that I try to meet people online, but I guess this can apply to whenever I meet a girl i general.

So basically it goes like this, just to kinda tell a little bit about myself:

I'm shy
Doesn't have a lot of experience with women
Not exactly good at holding up a conversation.

So let's say I meet someone(dating apps/reddit/personal) and well I guess I can hold up an ok convo, getting to know each other and whatnot. But eventually I always want to level up my talks with them and get in a little deeper. To be specific, I want to talk things like maybe sex, fantasies, basically anything mature. I mean I try to but it's always a struggle to me, like I hesitate if I just bluntly open up the topic or like do I subtly veer it into that direction.

So maybe any advice or tips you can give me?

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Title	Tips on opening up
Author	MintSoyLatte
Upvotes	2
Comments	2
Date	December 1, 2018 8:50 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a21iif/tips_on_opening_up/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/tips-on-opening-up.1292349 https://theredarchive.com/post/1292349

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[–]dannybose 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Well, first of all. Those conversations are not easy for anyone and not intended to be talked at first glance. Unless you are a master at this and you are mixing it with carisma and jokes. Witch is a difficult thing to do anyway. Those things are in general too personal and this does not mean that it has something to do with the people involved but with the way society works. You should try going places you never been before meet people and talk about the things around you at first. In many situations is how you can break the ice before you can take it to the next level and see where the conversation takes you. But usually this is a conversation for people that have known each other for a long time. It is basically a trust issue for almost everybody that's why you're probably shy to. Try not to doubt yourself when you're talking about it just shows the other person that you're confident. This way doesn't look creepy and definitely doesn't feel like it either. But if you really want to talk about it I think a professional will help you a lot. And they can definitely show you the way you can be confident when you talking about it. I hope this helps and gives you a bit of confidence already.

[–]MintSoyLatte 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link