The date started ok with lots of rapport building and I felt fine, confident and just having a good time, however I got very nervous and anxious as the date went on which was really weird as im usually pretty good in this regard and she said a few things I was not expecting at all that didnt help and put me off even more, and got to the point were she asked "so what is this? Are we dating, friends?" . Now this led to me lacking kino along with generaly not showing intent at all which highlighter how much you have to show it, because holding hands and giving her a hug is going to get you jack and shit.

So for next time and for any new guys here are some tips for showing intent during the date from start to finish. Firstly though you have to be confident, holding frame and enjoying yourself as always.

  1. Hug and kiss on the cheek when greeting! Nothing over the top but please dont repeat the gentle embrace I pulled off today.

  2. Next get seats you can sit next to eachother not across, and if she starts off by sitting across from you get her sitting near you. (Eg, "I cant hear you, you are going to have to sit over here").

  3. As soon as you leave take her hand and lead her! Even put you hand on the small of her back as you get up and leave.

  4. Sexual/flirty tone, you have to show your are having fun and you are interested verbally.

  5. Get close while sitting, while sitting down or standing around please stand close to her, do not do what I did by standing with good meter between us, and taking ages to move closer while sitting on a bench (looking nervous the whole time ffs).

  6. Go for the kiss close! Even if it fails and she rejects it clearly shows your intent and you can always build rapport (comfort) again, increase temp and go again later.