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I'm recently getting back into the game after a hiatus and I've been thinking about this for the past week. I know a lot guys (including myself) who are very determined to improve at this, a lot of them go out consistently and approach plenty, and a few definitely progress. However, a large portion of them don't really get that successful or stall at a certain point and just keep doing the same thing over and over again. Taking action and reading material is not enough, there's a difference between quantity of action vs quality of action and it's important to make the time you spent in field count.

Now, I'm not great at this myself and I've been having very sporadic nights, I feel like I'm starting from the bottom as well so I really want to tackle pickup in a realistic way, a way that will truly allow me to progress in a realitvely linear way.

So these are some of the things I have in mind that I think are very important necessary to do if you really want to progress in pickup.

1. Break down your nights

If you watch the video, you'll see that most of the instructors mention the importance of breaking down your nights. Max advises to open a word document when you get home, title it "Nights Evaluations" and write down in detail:

  1. What you did right.

  2. What you did wrong.

  3. What you should work on/improve on for the next night out.

This will allow you to see the movie twice and eventually you'll start seeing recurring patterns of you strengths/weaknesses. This leads me to my next point...

2. Figure out your sticking points and work on them specifically.

A lot of guys dabble around too much, some have very sporadic nights and have trouble figuiring out why one night went fantastic, and the next one went horrible. And reading extensive material on 20 different topics in seduction can really clog your mind, you should focus on specific sticking points and read up on that.

Breaking down your nights in detail will help you notice specific issues you have and the sticking points will slowly reveal themselves. The next step is simply figuring out how to work on them and taking proper action.

Some sticking points will put you in situations that you're not exactly comfortable with. For example, let's say you're sticking point is sexual escalation. You don't do it out of fear that you might say/do something that will put you out of your comfort zone. You can't let fear get in the way, you must push past this. Do it over, and over, and over again, to the point where it would be weird if you didn't sexually escalate. Intuition is developed through experience.

This brings me to the last point.

Be willing to try new things and play to win

Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

This is a big one I think. We tend to stick to what we're comfortable with most of the time and a lot of times this limits us to what is really possible. Maybe you don't do direct approaches at bars, maybe you avoid daygame, maybe you hate clubs/dance game, maybe you have trouble going for the kiss, etc.

The only way to improve is to expand your comfort zone and be willing to try new things. You have trouble opening large group sets? Open 3 group sets every time you go out for the next month. You have trouble opening direct? Go and do 5 direct approaches tonight. Do that 3 days a week for 2 months and come back to me and tell me the difference between the first day and the last day.

Tackle these issues with ferocity. Truly put yourself out there and plow through the pain period because the outcome will be worth it.

Anyway, these are just some thoughts I personally have. I didn't mention the obvious one of going out and approaching cause I think that one's pretty self explanatory.

What else do you guys think is necessary to do in order progress in pickup?

EDIT:

I just thought of another important one.

4. Find like-minded people

One of the most common and obvious thing I notice when I have great nights is that I'm having fun. Now, getting into state is a whole different post on its own but I can tell you something, if you're going out with like-minded people who are fun to be around with and put you in a good mood, you're bound to have a great night. I'm fortunate enough to have made a few friends from the community who not only I like to hang out with, but who I also enjoy going out and talking to girls with. When you're out shooting the shit with friends and socializing, pickup just becomes easier. So go out and make an attempt to find wings you click with, and make sure to push yourselves to improve. I would be worse off if I hadn't met some of the guys I know. Believe me, it's definitely helpful to find good wings.