Trouble with "Hellos."

Big_TX · 2015-04-28T17:34:59+00:00

Say hay or what's up. Or hay (girls name)!

Kevinhunter69 · 2015-04-28T18:24:03+00:00

I’m here for you man,

…and believe me, improving your game is easy once you know how.

I previously made a post that gave instructions on how to get into your best DSM, or Default State of Mind, as possible.

That post is PACKED with knowledge of channeling your innermost emotions and using those to fuel your motivation and push forward in LIFE.

When it comes to game, you’re DSM will be fueled by recognition of your action.

Oh and remember, approach anxiety is fake.

Let’s say you approach a hot girl, you chat her up for 5 minutes and then she leaves, society has programmed us to think, “FVCK, I just failed”.

This is all predicated on your the way in which you frame the situation.

If you chatted her up because she looked interesting, or maybe you just chatted her up because you are trying to improve your game incredibly fast, that approach was a success.

There was no prescribed outcome, you approached, you got feedback on what to do better next time, and then you approach a new woman.

You need to banish the idea that your goal is to fvck every single woman you approach. –

Quickest way to improve your GAME

Here we go.

Approach, approach, approach

The more often we approach back to back women, the easier it is for us to get into a certain flow of being a social guy if you approach 3 times a day only, spread out throughout the day, you’ll never really find your own rhythm. Go out for 30 min per night, sports bars or anywhere frankly, and approach back to back sets

Reduce reaction time

I remember when I was first learning game.. I would often find myself seeing a beautiful woman, then kind of freaking out for a second. I’d usually come up with about 5 excuses in 10 seconds as to why I shouldn't approach her.

Fast track tip 1: Don’t let yourself have time to think. The second you see a woman to approach, go straight to her with a sense of urgency. Don’t wait for her to get closer. Attack with purpose.

Don’t plan the interaction.

Having a plan as to what “opener” you are going to use, or some canned routines just puts you in your head. If you are in your head, you aren’t PRESENT in the interaction. Plus, you have no idea how she is going to react. Eventually, you may be able to increase your chances of knowing how, but not until you are a master of game.

“Hey you seem interesting, what do you do?”, “I’m Kevin”.

Just feed off the responses you get in real-time. After about 20 committed approaches, this will start getting easier and easier.

Control the frame of the interaction

Think of frame control like a game of tug-o-war. When you are in control, she is coming to you. When she is in control, you are going to her.

Controlling the frame is done best by:

Breaking Rapport: The inflection of your voice should go down. Think of yourself hitting your fist on a table on the period of every sentence.

Be non-reactionary: The best way be non-reactionary and control the frame so that SHE is reacting to YOU, is by not even letting her answer a question before you are asking the next one. “Where are you from” “What do you do there”, “That’s so cool I’m Kevin”.

Boom.

you_got_it_joban · 2015-04-28T20:06:35+00:00

A simple Hey (smile) how are you today? Works wonders

CassiusTheDog · 2015-04-28T17:42:52+00:00

I'm a big fan of a smile and a wink. Don't even need to say anything.

Title	Trouble with "Hellos."
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	12
Comments	8
Date	April 28, 2015 3:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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