This is an update of events from the time I made post below

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/am13i8/is_this_a_complete_no/

TLDR - Had decent chemistry with girl. She enquired if i had gf, how many exes I had, took food voluntarily from my lunch twice & was fairly open to my touching & was touching back/leaning in too. Asked her out poorly? (read above post) n got negative response. Not sure if I was friend-zoned & where to go.

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Following the negative response to my approach, I behaved as if nothing happened but pulled back my attention considerably. The girl continued to behave normally afterwards. She was laughing at my dumb af jokes, trying to have normal conversation. She is always just staring & smiling widely at me randomly quiet a few times. I even asked her whats up n she just said nothing. I avoided her a little to get her to chase me.

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The thing is there were some events which made me have gut feeling that she was just looking at me as a good friend. I boarded same bus as her to go home and she decided to sit with her random friend instead of with me when we cld have gone back home together. I just got off the bus at my destination n didn't wait for her. Another time, we were doing our project (2 of us only) together n when it was time to leave for home, she seemed excited to go home & rushed me to finish work instead of maybe trying to spend more time with me doing the project since it wasn't complete.. [Side note, she was very excited to do the project with me n reminded me multiple times a day to spare time & do the project with her. Not sure if she viewed it as work that needed to be done or she wanted to spend time w me.]

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Importantly, when we were doing the above project, she fully engaged in kino. I know for a fact I didn't initiate any touching and SHE did. She insisted to take pictures of us ( I refused/played hard 2 get) to post on gram and finally, took unnecessarily long to get perfect pic as I held her close by me for the pic. It went to extent that some1 who walked past us once commented why were sitting so close together like a 'glue'. She was also asking me how she looked and commented she looked ugly in the pics. I didn't give her any validation. On valentines day, her best friend reserved a seat beside me for this girl to sit during lunch. When some1 asked her Best Friend why she reserved a seat, she said it was becoz I and this girl I like are now like 'best friends'. Not sure that is an excuse or if this girl I like really just thought of me as 'Best Friend'. I didn't get her anything on the day & neither did I wish her since I haven't fucked her yet lol. Past 2 weeks, we haven't seen each other much. I texted her once and she did seem 2 put in some effort into the texts (Long responses, quick replies etc.) However, she ignored my final text.

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So where do I go from here? Sometimes I feel we have something brewing & other times my gut feeling says she is looking at me as a friend. Im still a beginner and im not sure if my insecurities r fucking up what could be. So some guidance would be appreciated. I feel she is giving mixed signals. Another matter is that I've been a bit distant to her as I don't want to be used for attention/validation or be her friend either. She commented on why I was behaving 'dead' sometimes too. What sort of behaviour should I adopt and how do I proceed from here? What are your thoughts?

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TLDR: Had decent chemistry with a girl who gave massive IOI and asker her out after 3weeks. Got a negative response. Pulled back attention and she started initiating lots of KINO and giving few IOIs. Mixed signals, where do I go?