Hi Seddit!

First of all, thanks to the community for the insight you bring into the game. I have never been into PUA myself, but after having read the sidebar links I found some very interesting views on the psychological aspects of it.

I'm not sure whether this is the correct place to ask about this, but I figured there would be thousands of men and women with way more experience than I have, who could hopefully point me in the right direction.

Some weeks ago I met a girl, and we immediately clicked a lot. She asked me for my number so we could keep in touch, and ever since we have talked almost on the daily, many times for looooads of hours. This is something I think seddit doesn't really approve of, but oh well.

The thing is, this girl is right now dating a guy she's got a crush on, but it's a relationship which is going nowhere. He's just doing Erasmus in her university, and will spend the summer over to then get back home by the end of summer. We're talking other side of Europe, basically. Would they have a long-distance relationship? I can't know. This girl likes him a lot, according to her, but she has also told me many times she doesn't even know what she's doing, and that she knows it won't work in the end.

Now, needless to say, I like this girl, or I wouldn't care at all about the issue. And I have reasons to think she likes me, both physically and intellectually, but the only time I tested the waters a little to see if she really liked me she blatantly dismissed the fact, and avoided the topic. No worries.

I was wondering what your opinion is, after having read a lot about this "window of attraction", according to some theories, that women have, and that once past you're pretty much out of the game. Is that more of a pub PUA thing? I should clarify now that I'm interested in something serious with this girl, not in just having sex. Is playing the long con worth it here?

tl;dr Met girl, hit it off.

She's dating a guy in a relationship that 95% sure will be over by the end of summer.

Should I be honest about liking her, or wait till the end of summer and see how events unravel?

I'm going back home anyway over summer to write a thesis after having been abroad for almost 3 years, and I also had planned to work on some of my own issues, which I've neglected for my studies and personal shit for a long time, so even if I were upfront I wouldn't do anything over summer, probably, besides meeting up a few times. Right now my focus is my thesis and working on myself.

What to do Seddit?

Thanks a lot!