What am I doing wrong [M]

LordShiroStar · 2020-02-09T13:06:30+00:00

Everyone has different experiences, it's useless to compare yourself to others.

And it's not because you dont drink or smoke that you can't go out.

I have a friend who doesn't drink nor smoke because he decided it wasnt good for him and we totally support his decision.

getyourlifeplease · 2020-02-09T12:25:37+00:00

All of the crushes I've had I've failed miserably at approaching. Or maybe it's because I have a thing where I refuse to drink or smoke, causing me to not go and socialize at parties and such. Or it's my poor conversational skills, where I can't ever seen to think of what to talk about

You answered your own question - ALL of that will def affect your success when it comes to girls. Not sure what ethnicity you are either...but traveling abroad can either be a PLUS for hooking up with girls - or a deterrent. Work on your social skills, awkwardness, and reading body language. Practice just TALKING to people...not even just girls, people overall. Become better at conversation that way, and then when youbalhave improved you use those skills on girls.

Eswing615 · 2020-02-09T13:34:15+00:00

The best advice I got about how to get a girlfriend was too just keep asking women out. It’s like throwing darts and it may take a lot of attempts before you get a bullseye.

Also, read some books on how to flirt, date, etc. try to find ones that treat women with respect/include a woman’s perspective.

So very quickly after you are interested in a woman, ask her out on a date. Make the fact that it is a date clear at the start. Invite the “No” and make it clear you are ok with rejection. That you would like to get to know her better and see if you are a good fit/can have fun.

Be a decent person. Use good judgement.

If it’s awkward, acknowledge it. Be honest about who you are and what you are looking for.

yearzero69 · 2020-02-09T13:51:23+00:00

Don’t even trip. Most guys in high school exaggerate how much pussy they get.

that-one-guy-youknow · 2020-02-09T14:10:11+00:00

Not smoking or drinking or being a “nice guy” is definitely not it. Don’t fall for that narrative. Girls always say my brother is “super sweet,” and he never drinks or smokes while I do drink, he gets twice as much action as me. Because he’s confident.

You don’t sound confident. Work out and it will help you with that. Conversation is not that hard, just ask her questions about herself. You prob can’t think of what to say cause you’re so worried to sound stupid, that holds you back, don’t be afraid to ask questions that blatantly make it sound like you want to talk to her, like randomly asking a girl “how are you doing?” People like that

You also may be aiming too high. Don’t just go for 8+/10’s. That’s limiting your sample size way too much. Lower your standards, and approach the girls with more confidence, magic will happen

quinnmcd · 2020-02-09T15:03:49+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:

A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit.

No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.

For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.

Title	What am I doing wrong [M]
Author	Nitrote
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	February 9, 2020 11:50 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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