What did I do wrong?

Altwolf89 · 2019-08-02T16:57:43+00:00

I would stop contacting her, she is probably interested in someone else, just keep her number and ever few weeks send her a ping. Give like a "hey, are you busy tomorrow night? Going to hit up this new place, you should come with".

Just don't expect anything and keep her as an option but barely a second option.

Lmaowhatsaseconddate · 2019-08-02T17:06:44+00:00

she responds with a single smiley or whatever I kept initiating

Stop initiating, her interest level is low. Let her come to you. If she sends you a one word text you STOP replying.

she was cold as fuck texting

Texting should only be used to set up dates, by texting her a lot you're just talking yourself out of sleeping with her. She was cold because she's losing interest FAST.

I pulled back for a day no contact...I text her on Wednesday.

NO. That's not what no contact is. When you go no contact you need to wait for HER to initiate with you, if several weeks pass THEN you can try to shoot her a text asking if she wants to get together.

She tells me she's not sure

She's sure she's not interested.

So I tell her it's cool but why

All you're doing is coming off as needy and insecure by asking.

She said she doesn't know why but she does like me.

She's not interested but doesn't want to hurt your feelings, look at her actions NOT her words. She doesn't "like" you.

At that point I was ready to walk away

WHY DIDN'T YOU? That's the best thing you could have done.

told her I'm not planning anything around her because we are not going to be seeing each other anymore.

How is that going to make her want to hang out with you more? She already doesn't want to see you at this point.

she'll think about it

This means NO. This means I was never going to think about it, my minds already made up, I have no intention of hanging out with you at all.

Stop wasting your time trying to hit her up and hang out with her, the only thing you can do is stop talking to her at this point and HOPE that she hits you up. Chances are she never will because you came off as so needy and insecure to her. Just because she tells you she likes you doesn't mean she actually does. Her actions will tell you that she likes you, you should never have to ask.

Caduceus_ · 2019-08-02T15:56:45+00:00

Personally, she’s probably entertaining someone else. I think your a back-up. Don’t be anyone second option. If that’s the case. If it’s not. She’s just cold, I would leave and hop back on tinder

hilhil83 · 2019-08-03T06:02:55+00:00

female here - IMO, shes probably afraid your moving too fast (either impatient or lovebombing level?) or fear that you are just going to use her. and she doesnt want to get hurt.

Caduceus_ · 2019-08-05T22:18:30+00:00

Wtf????

Brebos22 · 2019-08-05T04:22:39+00:00

I've got an update for you guys, so after two days of ignoring me and me going no contact she just sent me a pic of her walking naked on the beach saying she totally missed my messages and hopes all is well. What now? I havent responded as of yet.

Title	What did I do wrong?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	5
Comments	34
Date	August 2, 2019 3:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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