I really shouldn't generalize, but let's be honest, most of the time when a man is talking to a woman outside of a professional setting there is one thing on his mind. Granted, they're are some genuine friendly nice guys who aren't looking for that, but not generally. I recently read an article about how women think guys just want to be friends, most women think this? Is this true?
So I clearly have trust issues and I'm not trying to rationalize them, but at what point is it unhealthy to be jealous. Even Iwould agree that nothing is wrong with a little flirting. But is the line drawn with a number exchange? Or a kiss? Or a hug? What is really unhealthy behavior? These problems only exist if I'm in a relationship, so if I'm lucky enough for someone to ask me out and Idont mess it up in the beginning, I still have this whole trust issue. Let's leave that aside, the real issue is gettiing into a relationship to begin with. Its not that Ihesistate or don't talk to women, cause Ido. I often very ineffectively hit on women. It never gets me anywhere , infact it has never worked, the only women Iend up in relationships with are ones who ask me out. As pathetic as it is, technically Ihave never pulled anything. Idont know what it is. I had one ex tell me it was because Ididnt hit on her but Ihit on everyone else. I'm pretty sure that's what happens everytime, Ishow no interest but Ialso show interest in everyone but them. Its even worse, that women that are really really attracted to me will never say it to me. It makes me so bitter. The one girl Imet Italked to for months cause Imet her when she was in town visiting, Inever actually got to hit it. I spent two nights all night up with this one. And she didn't put out. Finally after montths of talking we were going to meet up again Itold her Iwouldnt meet up with her cause she didn't put out and made me wait months for it. She then told me she would have gave it up had Igone to met her. This is what bothers me so much about this, why the months of waiting? Of course no guy wants a slut, they want a slut that will be faithful to him. So wtf is wrong with me. Why can't Ijust interact and react in a healthy social environment like everyone else?