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I also memorize movie scripts so I always have great dialogue and character development
/r/seduction21/04/21 03:53 PM
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Her: "I'm working as a marketer in the big city now, which is much different than my internship that was way out in Hawaii" [Note: don't just follow up with a more common "Oh cool what do you do exactly for work?", since this is both a question and more interview style, and by saying "Oh cool" when it relates to just her, it can be seen as mindless agreeance.] You: "Oh, Hawaii, that's cool.. I was there last year with some friends and it was great until we tipped the Jeep when we took it on the …
/r/seduction20/04/21 06:30 PM
5

Here we go AGAIN, If true: get a therapist since you keep reposting this. If fake: ...
/r/seduction20/05/19 01:05 PM
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Maybe; but doesn't it show he was 'insecure' enough (at least in her mind) to go through the effort to make a fake account and spend the time to find per profile. Doesn't seem like a high value move in my opinion. Especially since he did it on a hunch.
/r/askTRP15/05/19 02:27 PM
1

Don't block her since that seems like you're hurting, and when/if she comes round and texts then imagine her for what she is (a low prospect that is flakey) so since you're keeping busy make her a minimal priority. If she puts in all the legwork and sets up a date (and maybe even pays) then go if you feel like it. But I'd consider her a lost cause. ​ Some girls disappear and come back only for the attention, which just wastes your time.
/r/seduction06/05/19 04:44 PM
2

No guy friends? Are you delusional? I understand if she is doing 1 on 1 at like 2am but relax if she's doing the occasional keeping in touch with people here and there.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 07:47 PM
13

In Steel's Guide to MRP he links to the "Verbal Intercourse is Optional" post in MRP, which says to not instantly disengage from 100 to 0 since that is certainly sulking. But instead to slowly withdraw the more she won't compromise or respect you etc. It's a good read based on how men are good at overt communication but bad at covert; and women are good at covert communication but bad at overt. So just like how if a women tries to give you a strong-armed ultimatum you just basically feeling like…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:25 PM
1

Oh like blowing her budget, that stuff is expensive!!
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:11 PM
2

I've always left an approach feeling better than that shitty feeling of not approaching and making up excuses as to why I didn't. Every time, so just do it. The more you hesitate the more reasons you'll come up with as to why you shouldn't approach.
/r/seduction10/07/16 08:26 PM
1

Make plans with Girl B; and if Girl A says she can make it then either postpone with Girl B, or tell Girl A that something came up and propose a new day - second option is probably a better idea.
/r/seduction19/04/16 03:21 AM
1

All of the best information is on the sidebar.
/r/seduction20/02/16 07:22 PM
6

I would have at least offered that she could share my bed with me since she might have been too shy to ask directly. And if she said no at least I did my due diligence.
/r/seduction20/02/16 07:20 PM
2

They say motivation is temporary, but good habits are more long lasting. So, form good habits - this is done by repetition.
/r/seduction13/02/16 09:01 PM
2

Yes exactly. I'm surprised this is the only comment regarding this.
/r/seduction13/02/16 07:21 PM
2

The term people use around here is LMR (Last Minute Resistance) and there are many articles about it.
/r/seduction11/01/16 11:35 PM
1

Go out with her.
/r/seduction11/01/16 11:30 PM
1

You're overthinking this by a mile. Do you really want to live a life where you have to analyze every tiny detail? Ask her out for coffee and if she doesn't respond or says no then onto the next one.
/r/seduction11/01/16 11:28 PM
4

Well, at least they view you as a leader - which is a compliment and shows some of your value. Just tell them that if they're going to wheel girls with you that it's all or nothing. No hovering around the girls. They can either keep on dancing on their own, or make an actual move not just follow you.
/r/seduction16/08/15 06:02 AM
3

If he didn't go to school, had an okay job, and was able to save well due to low expenses (i.e. living with parents), then I'm not so sure how having 5 figures (which could be as low as $10,000) is so surprising even at 20 years old?
/r/seduction16/08/15 05:56 AM
1

Well, maybe she portrays being very open and honest - but if she tells you four truths and hides the one and most damaging out of the five, then is 80% truth adequate? And how are you to know? All I'm trying to say is that at the end of the day, people will generally look after their own interests and that many aspects of this world are not how they appear.
/r/seduction16/08/15 05:51 AM
3

Women's biggest bargaining chip is sex, while men's is their commitment. Lot's of men undersell themselves without realizing it.
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:38 AM
25

Lots of seduction principles apply to many other aspects of your life. For example, maintaining strong eye contact and being confident is a huge asset in the corporate world. It helps getting a better salary, or a better job, etc.
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:36 AM
0

Try to watch some naturals do it. Or make a friend who is good at it and you will learn a lot.
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:34 AM
1

I wouldn't have told her. If you viewed what happened as a mistake, then deal with it yourself and avoid repeating it in the future. I can't think of one good reason to tell her. Maybe she tries to structure it as being "open with her" and "we have to share everything" but at the end of the day some things are better left unsaid. I'm sure she has secrets of her own.
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:33 AM
1

Keep the texting to a minimum, and generally only for logistics in setting up dates. As for the time, whatever works for your schedule. Don't get caught up in overanalyzing texts and times and strategies. Just go with the flow. But yes, 7:30 - 8:00 is a good time.
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:25 AM
3

I take bug deep breaths all the time when I go biking!
/r/seduction28/03/15 01:04 AM
0

Indirect for daygame, direct for nightgame. I like to feel the vibe in daygame and if she seems interested then maybe grab her number at the end. It will have a feeling of fate, even though I know better than that. For nightgame, it's often too loud or busy to have a good conversation so you have to do lots of kino and show your intentions more directly.
/r/seduction16/03/15 12:15 AM
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Was in the same boat, but honestly just keep practicing. There were times I tripped up every word just talking to a cute cashier when I had no plan on getting her number - just to make conversation and not a single word was comprehensible. Or I would feel all the blood rush to my head, and I probably blushed a lot. Now it's no real biggie.
/r/seduction05/03/15 01:51 AM
3

I'm a big proponent of putting yourself out there even if you know it will very likely end in failure, by basically taking a grounded risk (when I say risk I mean as in playing guitar in front of an audience, not bagging some rando without a condom). Because then you will learn about yourself, get used to being vulnerable, and be able to evaluate yourself in different situations.
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:46 AM
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If you lose interest because you legitimately never 'really' liked them but kept them on the hook to prove to yourself you could with the added thrill of a challenge - then there's no point in keeping them around. But if you consciously like them and your subconscious is just f'ing around then truck through and take it further, such as doing sexual activities or getting a girlfriend if that's where it goes. In summation, you are the one who has to decide whether the reason for your loss of inter…
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:31 AM
7

The same reason my cat stops chasing a toy once it stops moving. They, and you, just like the chase.
/r/seduction02/03/15 03:40 AM
4

If it's my bud then I will obviously wingman if I can be of service, or help him out. Unfortunately, if I've never met the guy before then I'll pull out all the stops if it seems like something worth pursuing. It's just how it is.
/r/seduction23/02/15 03:27 AM
3

She got your first text and chose not to reply. Simple as that.
/r/seduction23/02/15 12:53 AM
1

Or look up the Kate Upton eye contact video, sponsored by Sobe. Edit: NSFW, there's also an extended version on youtube.
/r/seduction22/02/15 08:28 PM
1

There '3 second rule' was created for this very purpose. The goal is to approach her within 3 seconds or else it's game over. Otherwise, it's very easy to sike yourself out, or come across as creepy because you end up glaring at her trying to figure out what to do for a bit and it's very offputting to her.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:28 PM
3

I agree with all of the above; I've used the "would a gay guy do this?", and pull her in for the makeout. 1/1 on this, never been asked if I was gay by a girl other than that, and the line doesn't work as well on my male friends.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:23 PM
1

This is more appropriate for /r/askseddit, nonetheless there are big lists of IOIs (indicators of interest) that you can look up but none of them are 100% sure things. I'd recommend spending more time with her, not on an official date, and just see if she seems attracted.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:20 PM
1

I prefer the indirect approach for daygame. If a girl is giving me strong signals then I'll go for it - but I rarely do a full out cold approach because I found that even if I got a number and hit it off well, it never seemed to amount to anything.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:18 PM
3

Guys can also tell when your confidence is not at 100% because you might subconsciously try to take up less space, or avoid eye contact if you happen to meet their eyes - and once they sense there is blood in the water they will make a move. If you build social proof and demonstrate that you are a confident, worthy guy than not only will it attract the girls, but it will keep other guys at bay.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:16 PM
3

I have always favored the indirect approach for day game, and the direct approach for night game. So, if it's the middle of the day I'll just strike up a quick innocent conversation to get a feeler out (e.g. do you know when the next bus comes?), and you'll be able to tell pretty quickly if she is open to chatting more or if she wants it case closed. If she seems open to talking more I'll have a light conversation from her and by talking slow and having comfortable body language (maybe turned a …
/r/seduction21/02/15 04:59 PM
2

Just go about your usual business, if they somehow want to see you in person then you can't because you're busy. Getting your wisdom teeth removed. Just because you have to lay low for a few days doesn't mean you have to send out a memo detailing your life.
/r/seduction21/02/15 04:52 PM
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Why not just be honest with her and if she brings up wanting a relationship then you can be blunt and tell her you aren't at a point in your life where you're looking for one. She might not even want one. Just live in the moment.
/r/seduction21/02/15 04:12 AM
1

So I'm a little surprised no one has touched on this, but to me there are two important factors. The first is that you say you "I am the only one desperately looking for some girls" - and coincidentally you are the only one not getting laid in your group of friends. You need to relax and hide the fact that you are really looking for a girl. Just enjoy the time with your friends and things should fall into place nicely. You also mention always ending up "being drunk as fuck" - don't do that, keep…
/r/seduction17/02/15 03:56 AM
1

"He's a really good friend of mine, because, he just is."
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:42 AM
1

I never lose my voice. Maybe warming up your vocal chords might help? I'm sure a quick online search will bring up some relevant results...
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:34 AM
1

A Billion?
/r/seduction07/02/15 01:44 AM
2

Go get 'em!
/r/seduction07/02/15 01:40 AM
1

Do something rewarding before the party. Such as working out, or solving that hard homework question that has been hovering above your head. Sometimes before the bar I'll play some chess, and there have been times were I would crush my opponent embarrassingly bad, and that would make me feel like the king of the world - let's just say it led to a great night out at the bar. I know it seems trivial, and I don't do it too often, but sometimes you just need to get yourself into the zone if you're h…
/r/seduction07/02/15 01:38 AM
1

Because then going to your place afterwards is just another simple transition in the date, and not some overly exaggerated ordeal.
/r/seduction07/02/15 01:30 AM
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A moment I experienced that had a big impact on my life was when I was on a date with a girl, and she was so pretty; and she brought up that fact that she was shy and could be awkward. Which was a surprise to me because I wondered how a girl that was so attractive could be awkward. Albeit, her shyness/awkwardness was more of a subconscious thing that she realized was out of her control, and she consciously recognized it and embraced it - it was so fascinating. The waiter got her order wrong and …
/r/seduction07/02/15 01:21 AM
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You look normal, definitely no deformities. If you have concerns about your jaw appearing sunken in (which I can't notice), try cutting your sideburns higher up (maybe to about half an inch below the top of your eye) to give it a more uplifted look?
/r/seduction29/01/15 02:42 AM
1

Yeah, wait until the next class when it seems natural.
/r/seduction28/01/15 10:23 PM
2

Sometimes being uncomfortable or in a new area can bring on some AA. Just like the term "selectively social', sometimes I'm in the zone and sometimes something is throwing me off for whatever reason.
/r/seduction28/01/15 10:21 PM
0

Maybe a funny coupon you could hand out with the 'This coupon is good for one (1) free puppy playdate with badbing22 and badabingbadadog", and have your info on it. And as mentioned before, mix up your route so it is more discreet.
/r/seduction28/01/15 10:18 PM
3

Make sure your intentions are known from the beginning. That way you will polarize her and not waste your time. That being said, don't start immediately groping her and see if she's game.
/r/seduction24/01/15 05:09 PM
5

What the hell did I just read? I say 'okay' (basically setting the frame of accepting their offer and confirming it was their idea); or 'no I should go home' (rejecting their offer, and not over-giving information such as telling the I have to wash my fucking hair, but that I truly should go home probably since I don't feel like continuing the interaction).
/r/seduction31/12/14 06:30 AM
0

Some other things get me in a similar mindset - like listening to good pump up music for a while, watching those cheeky motivational videos, etc.
/r/seduction30/12/14 06:48 PM
2

Basically she's calling you naughty. Why such intense interest in a single statement?
/r/seduction30/12/14 06:46 PM
2

Just go out there and do your thing - don't go out there looking for slutty girls. Just look for attraction, and if anything you'll get more IOIs from the slutty girls. Regardless, treat it as any other night except with the knowledge that most girls will be down for a kiss come midnight.
/r/seduction30/12/14 06:44 PM
1

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take blah blah blah
/r/seduction14/12/14 02:55 AM
1

This were leading a very interesting life doing cool hobbies comes into play - you'll have a lot of engaging topics to talk about.
/r/seduction14/12/14 02:53 AM
4

Maybe pick a girl or two that you know it's over with and just plain and simple ask her what went wrong (and if she's vague, inquire more to see if it was you or the circumstances) and try to get her to be brutally honest. Even though this might lessen her attraction for you, who cares since you'll probably never talk to her again. Even something like, "Hey, things with girls seem to fizzle pretty quickly with me, is there something I do wrong or could improve on? I'm hoping you can be brutally …
/r/seduction09/12/14 06:43 AM
2

I'll have a couple of drinks. And yes I'm often a couple of drinks in when I'm at the bar trying to wheel some hotties.
/r/seduction06/12/14 10:46 PM
2

Locals (especially the college kids), and even an online search will give some good results. I just looked up what's good in my city and it's pretty spot on.
/r/seduction06/12/14 10:43 PM
3

Which is why I'm always surprised when people buy into those "Get any girls' number in 30 seconds" videos or articles since it doesn't really build any attraction or lay the ground work usually required.
/r/seduction01/12/14 01:35 AM
1

Honestly, just finding a friend who is good at it and watching it in action is far better than reading anything.
/r/seduction26/11/14 03:10 AM
4

I was once at a bar and it was last call, and a girl was watching her friend dance with a guy (they were the last ones on the dance floor) and she looked so sad. So I went up to her and said you look really bored, and she said 'yeah I'm waiting for my friend so we can leave', and I said 'let's makeout' and she said okay so we went at it. And then I got her number before she left. That is just one example, but the sky is the limit.
/r/seduction23/11/14 05:34 PM
1

Once you reach true confidence you will be more baffled as to why they rejected you instead of taking it as a hit to the ego and trying to regroup yourself.
/r/seduction23/11/14 03:11 AM
3

I'd focus on two areas. The first is being able to recognize when a girl is interested in you. Now I know sometimes a girl will throw herself at you, but other times it may be much more subtle. Another area is going to places you that should have the best success. I always found house parties the best because just being there gave that instant repertoire of both somewhat knowing the host and not being a complete random like at a bar. These are more strategies than anything. Another thing I reali…
/r/seduction23/11/14 03:08 AM
2

now all we need is the d. wait, no.
/r/seduction13/11/14 03:23 AM
1

I've had women claim to be excellent wing women and all they do is try to push me into girls I'm not attracted into. No bueno. Maybe they secretly love me. Also no bueno.
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:23 AM
1

As Eminem once said, 'Bitches they come they go, Saturday through Sunday yo'
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:20 AM
2

Use it to your advantage since at a party you can wander off and chat up some girls, and if it goes south you can just re-group yourself with your friends until you feel ready to wander off again.
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:18 AM
1

When I was younger if I got caught staring, I'd quickly glance down since I knew staring wasn't good to do and it was just instinct. Just like any body language cue, just guidelines really. Who knows how much water these things hold.
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:37 PM
1

There have been many studies on it, eye movements are used in other applications (e.g. lie detection - for instance, in a right-handed person they normally look up-right for visually remembering images, and up-left for visually constructing images, so an officer might ask them some questions where they have to recall memories, and other questions where they have to imagine something like a yellow elephant doing a handstand to get a baseline). The theory is that people look down during submissive…
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:14 PM
1

Well alcohol is known for making people more daring and courageous and less fearful of consequences - so it does help a good amount. But it is easily possible to wheel hotties without the use of a substance.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:44 AM
1

You'll probably have better luck trying the Sedditor Locator, which is pinned to the top of the board.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:42 AM
3

I have a similar issue where a girl will be all over me, and I wouldn't even be surprised if she proposed to me that very night and we'd fly into the sunset on a chariot made of gold. Sometimes we'll just make out, sometimes we'll do the dirty - sometimes I'll sleep at her place, sometimes I'll duck out through the window. Sometimes I'll text right after saying I had a good time, sometimes I'll wait a few days, sometimes a week. Sometimes I'll call them. Sometimes I won't. Sometimes I'll set a d…
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:41 AM
2

You should flirt with them regardless so that when they become single you are the first one they text.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:27 AM
6

To help out, and at the same time reading people's experiences so I can play them out in my head. It's a give/take sort of thing for me.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:25 AM
1

I believe 5. means to not put her on a pedestal and think she's perfect, but rather really take a real critical look to see if she is a good fit for you, and not the other way around.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:19 AM
3

Some say if they look to the side they aren't interested, and if they look down they are interested. I say they are interested until more than that tells me they are not.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:17 AM
1

I've got about a thousand numbers of girls that I thought wanted to propose to me the night I met them and then didn't return a text or phone call later on if you want any.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:14 AM
1

The more you ignore you while still demonstrating value at the party (if you hide in the shadows she might not even know you exist), the more she will wonder why you aren't giving her attention like every other guy. Girls notice attention very easily since it is so common, and by not providing her with attention she'll likely want it and try to get it.
/r/seduction10/11/14 01:10 AM
1

This was a good read. I just simply get their number (pull out my phone and open up the add a new contact so it seems like I'm ignoring them for 10 seconds and then pass it to them and tell them to enter it in) and 8/10 times I will get it. Although, after a while you realize how insignificant a number is and if it will even lead to anything. Worth a shot though.
/r/seduction09/11/14 04:51 AM
13

I'll probably think 'why is she still in my bed'.
/r/seduction09/11/14 04:43 AM
1

sup b
/r/seduction09/11/14 02:56 AM
6

I've had gorgeous girls tell me they are an awkward person, or have big anxiety problems and I'm thinking 'howwww, you seem so confident and assertive' and then I tell them that's the beauty of being human.
/r/seduction09/11/14 02:51 AM
1

Time, mainly. It slowly fades away.
/r/seduction15/10/14 12:50 AM
1

They didn't exist before the approach, and now they still don't, exist.
/r/seduction12/10/14 03:58 PM
2

Try to have as many social groups as possible, and meet as many people as possible (without looking like desperate - approach for a bit and go back to your social group for a while as social proof that you have friends and aren't desperately just looking for anything and anyone to talk to). It really comes down to planting as many friendship/hookup seeds as fast as possible. Then as you go out you'll recognize people, which will lead to more invites to do things to further expand your social cir…
/r/seduction12/10/14 03:48 PM
1

I was drunk when I lost mine because that's how I wanted it. I didn't have some fairytale idea of what it'd be like to lose it, I just wanted it gone. Good or bad, who knows - most people don't seem to recommend it but as a regular drinker it didn't make much of a difference to me.
/r/seduction12/10/14 03:44 PM
1

Listen, if there's one thing I know, it's not really a game of inches. Unless you say something egregiously stupid, then you're not going to lose her over something so minor.
/r/seduction08/10/14 03:22 AM
2

This is where having an interesting life, doing cool hobbies, being passionate, and having good buddies comes into play. Between current adventures, life ambitions, crazy stories of your own and second-hand ones, interesting stories involving your hobbies - you should have no issue keeping the conversation going.
/r/seduction28/09/14 11:40 PM
1

Well the dry advice is to practice and practice. At first you will probably be at your normal level of drunk or whatever, and you can slowly reduce your consumption and eventually all should be well.
/r/seduction28/09/14 11:38 PM
1

Well since you're in engineering, just go with the expected value for each girl. I'm making up the formula, but perhaps: E[girl] = p(desired_outcome)*RATING - DRAWBACKS So the expected value for each girl is the probability you get something you want from the girl (a k-close, an f-close perhaps), and the rating is 1-10 on how desirable you find her. DRAWBACKS is qualitatively reserved for any massive repercussions of your decision. Play the odds to make the best decision. Of course, without pred…
/r/seduction28/09/14 11:31 PM
3

I'm 6'5" so almost every girl seems short. If there are seating options then sitting is beneficial for both of us. Also, dancing with short girls sucks because they basically grind on my quads. In conclusion, I do what I gotta do.
/r/seduction28/09/14 11:19 PM
9

Often I find by separating myself from the group (e.g. use the washroom, get another drink, just get some fresh air), if she's interested she very well might disperse as well and our paths will likely cross.
/r/seduction22/09/14 01:00 AM
4

Go to a nice part of town and ask a passerby to snap a photo in front of some nice section or monument. You can just remark you're visiting the city or something if it make you feel better.
/r/seduction25/08/14 01:14 AM
4

Maybe I do things different, but wth. When I think of all the guys I've been buddies with or just from seeing a natural, it goes nothing like this. They have a good time and have fun with girls, just overall improving everyone's night. They don't go around pestering and nagging girls, or getting slapped. I hope you're not paying this coach. Furthermore, why do you want to ruin everyone's night by being a little shithead?
/r/seduction25/08/14 01:12 AM
1

Just remember, every zoo is a petting zoo unless you're a pussy :)
/r/seduction24/08/14 12:34 AM
1

It can be bad. But if you feel you are very responsible, and that she is too, it might work out well. I got involved in a classic 'don't shit where you eat' situation and six months later so far so good.
/r/seduction31/07/14 01:46 PM
1

I just don't want to learn 'dysfunctional' behavior, in the sense where I don't really want to program a routine into my head to get into different states. If I listen to a particular song two hundred times before I approach a girl, what happens if one time I get caught off guard and don't have time. I might freak out and totally blow it. Also, the fact that no one else has commented on it means most people probably don't care too much for this stuff. Don't take this too personal, I know NLP is …
/r/seduction31/07/14 01:44 PM
2

The more you do, and the more exciting stuff you do - the more stories you will have or conversational topics. Which is why having an exciting and fulfilling life is so important. I usually did or have a friend that did something I can relate to most normal conversations, so you listen to them, and contribute as necessary. Also, having some passions also help.
/r/seduction30/07/14 05:29 PM
1

Entire books have been written on this, and so you're not going to get the comprehensive answer you're looking for on the comments. However, mainly at bars, yes. But if I'm waiting at the bus stop and there's a girl that seems cute I will harmlessly strike up a conversation and see how it goes. If she responds uninvolved, I will just let it fizzle pretty quickly. But if we click or have chemistry I might ask for a number. Imagine you're a quarterback. Just because a 34 Right Blitz works well usu…
/r/seduction30/07/14 05:25 PM
3

While I can see some merit in NLP (I'm obviously no expert), I'm not going to touch the back of my neck to activate some seduction monster lying in wait. I know you provide a variety of methods, such as listening to music, sure. I probably do that every pre-drink incidentally, such as listening to music, playing drinking games, and often socializing with the same people. It sets the mood nicely. I also agree with the psychological principles you mention, such as pairing a conditioned response to…
/r/seduction30/07/14 05:18 PM
0

I'm sure you can spare a text every few hours.
/r/seduction30/07/14 05:07 PM
6

Just have him read the guides on the sidebar, and Models by Mark Manson to give him the basics.
/r/seduction30/07/14 12:44 AM
3

I realistically think she wasn't interested. Either of them. The hb7 conveyed this right off the bat, but maybe the hb9 was more adventurous. The fact that she avoided eye contact near the end is definitely a 100% dealbreaker. It was a lost cause.
/r/seduction30/07/14 12:17 AM
2

Well, the biggest difference is people don't live with their parents anymore, so the logistics become a lot easier.
/r/seduction30/07/14 12:13 AM
1

I agree with being more subtle to come across as more unattainable, but definitely every once in a while do a playful touch or something just to show a sexual side. I'm sure you can gauge his reactions and go from there.
/r/seduction30/07/14 12:12 AM
10

But I don't want to have fun, I just wanna bang chicks! All jokes aside, yes this is absolutely correct, just have a good time and most things fall nicely into place.
/r/seduction29/07/14 01:39 PM
1

So basically, any way to get alone time with him will be your best bet. If you want to be his main girl and not on the side, I wouldn't go farther than kissing him if you get the chance. If he knows he can get away with hooking up with you and still have his gf, then he won't want to settle for less. So if you start macking with him, then you'll have to eventually pull away and say something like 'this is bad, you have a gf'. Since your brother told him you are 'in love' with him, he knows what'…
/r/seduction29/07/14 01:34 PM
1

Is it the shit test guide on the sidebar, perhaps?
/r/seduction28/07/14 10:39 PM
1

Don't look around too much or have constant wandering eyes.
/r/seduction28/07/14 10:37 PM
1

Too much work makes Jack a dull boy.
/r/seduction28/07/14 03:00 AM
1

Selena Gomez?
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:58 AM
3

If you're going to lie about being Aladdin, why not just lie and say you were born in the states. Does it really matter? I try not to entertain myself with such trivialities.
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:56 AM
7

"What if I fail?" "But, oh my darling, what if you fly?"
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:53 AM
11

She doesn't seem interested imo. Minimal responses, and doesn't even comment on any information you give about yourself. Plus you bombard with emoticons and are overly helpful. Just my 2 cents. I think you need to relax and take a step back. I don't mean to sound very harsh, that's just how I see it.
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:45 AM
1

I try not to get caught up in linguistics. Sure, a statement is more 'confident' than a question ('give me your number' versus 'can I have your number?'), but I think it goes beyond that. If the majority of communication is non-verbal, than I'd rather demonstrate confidence through body language and then ask them for a number like a regular person. I don't want to come on really strong, I don't want to be pushy like that annoying salesman - I just genuinely want her number, and so I will ask for…
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:35 AM
1

Thanks for the thanks eh
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:15 AM
1

Their sheer weight makes it a very difficult physical feat!
/r/seduction27/07/14 02:10 AM
1

If you say no to snapchat, then it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy and yea you will have no one to snap with.
/r/seduction22/06/14 12:13 AM
2

Being able to identify a mistake is still a learning lesson and at the end of the day, you took something from this experience. It was not all in vain. Also, if you morally thought she was too drunk, maybe she was, it takes a strong man to say no to someone who may be more intoxicated than what they're comfortable with.
/r/seduction22/06/14 12:06 AM
1

Many girls won't go all the way the first time they meet a guy. Stop over thinking these things. Text/call her and maybe set up a date or see when she's hitting up a bar again, depending on how you roll. So yes, keep on persisting for sure.
/r/seduction27/05/14 05:13 PM
1

Is there are way you can have a trusted friend tag along and observe your approach and make sure it doesn't come off creepy or weird or overbearing, etc? A second opinion is always highly valuable. And try to lose the negative opinion about these 'apps' such as Tinder. They can be helpful, and once again, have a friend look at your profile to make sure you're using your best photos or help you take more so they're not selfies. Cheers.
/r/seduction27/05/14 05:11 PM
3

Tease them to entertain them and not for your own entertainment (to make sure it is in good fun). As for conversation topics, keep up with the news for interesting story, use stories of crazy things you've seen or done (which goes hand in hand with having a cool and active life), and stories of stuff friends have done.
/r/seduction15/05/14 03:05 AM
1

With a natural encounter, you do not act in an outcome based way. If anything, there is an aspect of surprise (i.e. like 'how did this even start'). Once you commit to a cold approach, you can often immediately incorporate a component of outcome dependance, and the girl can likely tell.
/r/seduction04/03/14 03:44 AM
5

So, as a first impression you come off as a bit needy, with the repeated requests for her to meet up - I can tell you're doing it lightheartedly, but it is a bit much and she might not see it the same way we do. You are conveying that your happiness depends on her being around, under the guise of humor. She also mentions that 'she just met you' or 'I barely know you', which means you should probably build more comfort instead of going guns blazing on the humor - especially since joking around te…
/r/seduction04/03/14 03:38 AM
1

You can adopt techniques to counter indecisiveness. Such as pick the option (e.g. a restaurant) that is first alphabetically. Boom.
/r/seduction27/02/14 02:37 AM
1

You did the right thing. He has the advantage because of the opportunity to build in-person attraction. Leaving the door open for future encounters was your only choice.
/r/seduction27/02/14 02:34 AM
1

Do what a reasonable human being would do. If she is being slightly demanding (e.g. she's busy studying on campus and wants you to bring her a coffee, then no sir), but if she's stranded on the side of the road because her car broke down and wants you to pick her up, then sure why not. Basically, don't majorly inconvenience yourself when there is no urgent need.
/r/seduction27/02/14 02:32 AM
1

Using the plentiful mindset. Which can seem foreign at first, but once plenty actually happens, one instance has no big impact. Just focus on more interactions.
/r/seduction27/02/14 02:28 AM
2

Your title says attractive not unattractive by the way.
/r/seduction05/02/14 08:07 PM
2

No you weren't too forward.
/r/seduction28/01/14 12:03 AM
3

What would you do if a guy friend asked you to do it? And do the same.
/r/seduction26/01/14 09:38 PM
2

It all of the sudden clicked for me and ill find myself and a girl locking gaze for a few seconds and it's exhilarating. And the whole time I'll just hear myself say 'oh its on'. Just give it some more mental preparation and it'll click for you my man. And practice some too. Play it through in your head. Or stare into a poster of a babe, or that Kate Upton staring contest video on YouTube.
/r/seduction26/01/14 08:06 PM
1

I had the same issue, and they also refused to go out to bars because they all said they had no money. Unfortunately, I slowly broke ties with them in favor of a group with more similar interests to mine. I saw no other way. I'm still on good terms with them and if I see them around ill make sure to say hi.
/r/seduction26/01/14 07:54 PM
1

I know some people who purposely mess up girls names while they tease them lightly. It's really not a big deal depending on how you play it.
/r/seduction26/01/14 07:51 PM
7

You forgot to mention the moon...
/r/seduction16/01/14 01:14 AM
1

If you go out twice a week, have one night where you try and pick up chicks, and the other where you just have fun (granted, if a girl comes along and you know she's interested then go for it). And see which nights have more success. Actively being on the prowl can build frustration and be negative to your game. If you are having enough fun and just having a good night out, girls will often come to you (not how guys do though - she will rarely waltz up to you, grab you, and tell you you're hot. …
/r/seduction04/01/14 08:06 PM
1

Excellent. I keep busy and often legitimately can't respond right away, or sometimes just forget to. It makes not be readily available pretty easy - another reason why a fulfilling lifestyle where you focus on your own needs first (e.g. relaxing with some TV, or on the computer) is important. Also, I don't really carry my cell around in the house so if I'm playing xbox or watching a movie I'm not checking my phone all the time - helps me have some quality time with myself.
/r/seduction04/01/14 07:59 PM
1

I was going to try and answer the onslaught of questions, but that would be a big feat. I think you should start with your 'inner game' and gain some confidence and understand that woman are much different than men. Once you understand them, it will shed light on their behavior. This clarity should help with your trust issues. There are 5 good guides on the side bar, with the first being learning pickup. These will help in your understanding of woman, and how to be more successful with them. The…
/r/seduction04/01/14 04:32 AM
3

My mission is to fill the void in their life wink wink nudge nudge
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:53 AM
6

Except I'm not going to escalate kino and isolate my buddy's gf. But I can see your point more from a social dynamic standpoint.
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:51 AM
4

I'd say definitely go and get out of your comfort zone. Don't look around too much, it's a sign of being uncomfortable/anxious.
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:47 AM
1

You seem to have a handle on it. Hang out with her one on one, and escalate physically. If you come off too passive (e.g. zero kino) it will likely end as a friendship. You have to show that you are a sexual being and that is your intent. With that being said, you can't come off too aggressively. It has to be playful and in good fun. Because she is wary of being screwed over with guys, you will have to build rapport and connect emotionally with her. One popular model is the M3 model by Mystery: …
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:44 AM
1

Sometimes all it takes is going out with a new group to see how it's done. And they're success will often trickle down to you. If you're going to the same bar, then change venues. Or maybe try house parties - a good house party is much easier to pick up chicks because you have some rapport right out of the gates. I know it can seem daunting, but once a little success comes, the floodgates will open and more girls will flow in. Just give it some more time and persistence.
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:27 AM
5

Forgetting one and and finding a new one is oneitis. The reason it is best avoided is because it can easily lead to beta behavior and ultimately lead to unattractiveness if not careful. With that being said, there is no issue with getting in a relationship with one girl. Have you ever met her? You say 'should I met her once'. Seems too soon to ask her to be your gf, at least in most cultures (a poster a while back from Norway I believe said it was commonplace to ask quickly, who knows...)
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:21 AM
1

If you hook up with the friend then your chances with the first girl go way down.
/r/seduction04/01/14 02:07 AM
2

Very true. Any reason you didn't make a move or escalate at the party or on the date?
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:37 PM
-4

I don't have much spare time for a relationship.
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:31 PM
3

Someone who is predictable and always available is unattractive. Having an air of mystery will create the desire using uncertainty that you read about (I didn't read the article so I could be talking about something else). The best way to ensure this is to have an active and fulfilling lifestyle with set priorities. This should keep you relatively busy. While you shouldn't drop your entire schedule to fit in with hers, be reasonable about it. As for not being predictable, be creative and try not…
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:27 PM
1

This has been touched on many times before, and some entire strategies are based on it (e.g. 'cocky & funny'). Many jokes can be socially borderline to tell, and saying them with poise will show confidence. Also, laughing with a stranger is a good way to build rapport. Furthermore, it's a good excuse to give them a touch on the arm, or vice versa (lots of girls reach out after a good joke).
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:23 PM
5

Literally the opposite of what he is trying to advocate haha.
/r/seduction29/12/13 04:02 AM
8

"Has anyone ever told you I have beautiful eyes?"
/r/seduction28/12/13 10:32 PM
1

You have to do what feels right. But in another sense, the easiest road is not always the right one. Only you know the answer to this. Cheers though.
/r/seduction28/12/13 10:30 PM
2

I see your point, and I realize everyone has their boundaries (as they should). I think the point is to be able to read what a girl wants and escalate accordingly. Obviously some random guy walking up to you and trying to finger blast you is not only disrespectful, but illegal.
/r/seduction28/12/13 10:16 PM
2

The title without [FR] would suffice. Cheers
/r/seduction28/12/13 04:36 PM
3

By finding yourself, I mean get that confidence and self-esteem that is so important. Spend time with yourself; learn something impressive (guitar, rock climbing, etc). Come to the realization that you are a cool person to be around, and a high value member of society. This will make your life easier in all areas, including work, friends, and girls. This is an important first step, and everything falls into place much better after that. As the next step, being more successful with the ladies wil…
/r/seduction28/12/13 04:34 PM
1

I can see where you're coming from on this, but you are exaggerating. No one (well...) just grabs the girl and shakes them like a rag doll. It might just be a light touch on the arm to show your intentions. It is a respectful process if done correctly.
/r/seduction28/12/13 04:29 PM
1

I've heard direct approaches are better for day game, and indirect at bars/clubs.
/r/seduction28/12/13 03:19 AM
1

It's easy to have a slip up moment. It's learning from it that makes it such a beauty.
/r/seduction28/12/13 03:18 AM
2

I just usually go for coffee. I like coffee.
/r/seduction28/12/13 03:17 AM
1

Sometimes I wonder the same thing - then I look back at the last text message from months prior and it was from them and I never responded. One night stands are often just that, a spur of the moment hookup. They fizzle after that because it was in the heat of the moment. The next time they need to get off, they will often take the next available guy and not go through the trouble of getting back with you - and sometimes they do. So basically, I'd change the girls you're going after. Preferably o…
/r/seduction28/12/13 01:20 AM
3

This is not a field report (which is a specific story detailing a specific encounter). Anywho, what some might not realize, is that the wittiness and quick comebacks you describe are more than for just entertainment and laughs. They communicate at a higher level. They demonstrate high value, confidence (remarks that are witty are often socially borderline and push the envelope - using them shows you back them up), and intelligence. I've told people before, and this is almost a side note, if I ca…
/r/seduction28/12/13 01:15 AM
7

Find yourself, then the girls will find you.
/r/seduction28/12/13 01:07 AM
1

You're overthinking it. You're going to tell her English is boring? Could you be any more mundane? Show some passion, especially since that is your career/job. She is being playful, almost in a roleplay sense.
/r/seduction28/12/13 01:05 AM
1

They usually send a text if they're interested. If they're not, I did my due diligence.
/r/seduction19/12/13 02:08 AM
5

I prefer to give my number because then if they aren't interested I dont waste my time. I know some people will say to be assertive and get their number, so that they get a # close and have control, blah, blah; but that's not how I roll.
/r/seduction18/12/13 03:16 AM
2

I'm 6'4, and getting girls isn't too hard. But it's not like I have sex all the time or anything. Every girl has their type. There are just too many factors to take into consideration to generalize.
/r/seduction15/12/13 04:28 AM
1

Are you tall? Do you look young for your age?
/r/seduction15/12/13 01:07 AM
2

I have to disagree. While having mutual friends say that can be awkward in the moment, if she reacted badly and was like 'nooo' and left sort of thing you would know she wasn't interested. Trust me, you would be able to tell by her facial expression if people remarked that and she was not down. But if she stayed around you then you should know the second you isolate her, you can at least start making out with her. Everyone could see the sexual tension between you two and I wish you had acted on …
/r/seduction15/12/13 12:57 AM
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