Asking for number vs giving number

HappyJerk · 2013-12-18T16:41:01+00:00

The cons of giving her your number is that she's not going to call you.

The_Kommunist · 2013-12-18T07:04:46+00:00

What about saying something like "So you gonna give me your number or what?"

ItsMachu · 2013-12-18T07:16:38+00:00

I do the same thing every time. When the moment feels right you take out your phone with the key pad screen already up, and you just hand it to her. Simple as that. Just be cool, confident and nonchalant about it mad she won't think twice about it.

I'm not suggesting you just walk up to random strangers and do this but if you put in a little work, open, talk, game her at all, get some IOI's, etc. you're in....and it's smooth as fuck. Some girls will react like "oh, am I supposed to give you my number now?" I usually reply in a cocky funny way such as "yeah that's exactly what you're supposed to do" or "what do you think your supposed to do"

Then I keep the number save it as something ill remember her as and decide later if I ever want to call or text her, keeping me in total control of the situation.

exhibitionistcouplez · 2013-12-18T16:33:11+00:00

There really aren't pros and cons. It's just two ways to go about it, and which one you prefer is more about you than her. If she's not interested you can get or give a number and still get no response. If she is, you can go either way and get her to engage with you.

But some guys prefer to put the ball in her court and if they never get a reply that's how it goes. Other guys prefer to have the number so they can send a message of their own and lead the initiation so they feel like they get off to a good start when they're ready to get off to a good start.

Which do you prefer? Go with that.

onetothehouse · 2013-12-18T03:16:34+00:00

I prefer to give my number because then if they aren't interested I dont waste my time.

I know some people will say to be assertive and get their number, so that they get a # close and have control, blah, blah; but that's not how I roll.

VMikeL · 2013-12-18T03:50:54+00:00

Neither.

None of this "here's my fallic logic that only applies to me", to say "I give it because it's a gauge of interest" is equivalent of saying "I'm going to jerk off til a girl hops on the opposite end." As per asking, I'm sure someone would oblige the "that's not alpha arguement."

The easiest method in my experience, is to hand her your phone with the dial pad out. You don't even have to say a word. After that, you call her and tell her to see if she's got it. She shows it, and you put in your name and send yourself a message. That way, ball is always in your court for the start of the text conversation.

joshsway · 2013-12-18T14:43:30+00:00

I always try to "get" .. girls rarely initiate even if they have your number, so you should pretty much always be trying to get their number. You can do it by "giving your number" first or by whatever technique etc. but the goal should be to get her number.

Sevitoth · 2013-12-18T18:24:36+00:00

Like others have said, I prefer to give my number so I don't waste my time if they aren't interested.

I've had girls give me wrong numbers before when I asked for theirs. Sucks calling wrong numbers....

2013-12-18T21:15:20+00:00

I've done both extensively, and the truth is, I have never been texted/called by all the girls whom I gave my number too. Sure, my game was most definitely lacking, but I had some really cool interactions in some of those cases. Cute girls tend to have elaborate social networks, and many guys IN their social spheres that are into them and dtf. If the girl is particularly horny, she will most likely prefer hanging out with a guy that she knows for a fact is not a creep or a rapist. He's the guy from Bio class, Jessica's cousin, the trainer at the gym, the bartender, etc. VS. the guy who approached her on the streets or in a bar. Also, girls know that if they text you first, we immediately know they want our D, so they try to be cautious to not send signals.

THAT SAID, a part of me knows that if you are the man you want to be, and you behave in a self-actualized way and without insecurity and neediness, you can leave an impression that's so awesome that she'll text.

Overall, I would say Either Get the number, or don't do anything at all (to develop a mindset of abundance, we must learn to meet a hottie and be outcome-independent - don't get a number or anything, just let things be). If you ask for a number, and she says she'll take yours, then just laugh it off and tease her about being paranoid, and let it go. Giving my number to a girl after she has refused to give me hers is incredibly pathetic - because you know deep down that nothing is ever going to happen, and that she's doing this to get the fuck out of the situation.

Kimjungillestt · 2013-12-18T22:16:18+00:00

I wouldn't bother giving your number, it shouldn't be up to her when a date is set up. It's your job to set up a date and how can you do that if you didn't get her number? Getting her number gives you full control of when things will take place.

TheGreenBackPack · 2013-12-19T01:24:20+00:00

I don't do this anymore, but what worked with 99% accuracy for me was just giving the girl my phone and telling her to put her name and number in it. They never say no, and hardly ever give you a wrong number if you aren't creepy about it.

GhostRider22 · 2013-12-21T03:33:36+00:00

In my experience giving a girl my number almost always gets me a text or call, usually within the first 24 hours.

Title	Asking for number vs giving number
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Date	December 18, 2013 3:05 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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