Wittiness

Silver-Wrap-2025 · 2025-10-16T17:07:07+00:00

You have an inability to be yourself because you keep thinking about the outcome instead of what you should be doing which is to aling yourself with the actions withotu caring about the results of your actions that you want to do.

See, you are in conflict or discomfort avoidance mode. You are thinking:

"My actions aren't worth doing unless they bring me the results i seek and if i can't know for certain that my actions will bring that result then i won't do them, and i will wait until i have guarantees that my actions will get me to the results".

Unforunately, there are no certainties in life other than death. No amount of overthinking can guarantee that the result will go the way you want every single time because many variables are beyond your control.

So when you say i want to make a good impression. Sorry, but the point of seduction isn't even to make a good impression. It's to get her to feel intense emotions.

You are not there to be "liked" by a the girl, you are there to get underneath her skin, to have fun with her reactions and with the things you express, to get her to respond emotionally, and to connect over similar feelings that you may or may not have without trying to foce a connection that isn't natrually there.

You are not there to score points or to get her to think "postively" of you, or to get her approval, or to convince her to give you a chance, or to impress her, or to prove your worth or to demonstrate good qualities or anything like that.

You are not even there to avoid rejection, you are there to express what you want simply because you feel like doing expressing it no matter the consequences and if she likes it great if not also great. Your mood should not be affected based on the result because the only metric of success you need to have is whether you acted on your impulses and thats it.

The stakes are not about whether she will like your or not, the stakes are about whether you will do or say what you want to do or say, or whether you will let fear of negative outcomes stop you. Once you say and do what you want to say or do, that's the vicotry, that's the win.

The result is not in your contorl anymore and it's mostly irrelevant because what matters is that you do what you want, not whether the result is the one you hoped. Sure it's nice if you get a good result but your mentality should be to not betray what your heart wants.

So when you think things like: "Maybe it's too soon" or "she is going to thin im a creep". dude stop basing your actions on what other people think. YEs people can think whatever the fuck they want about you, why do have to try to control that?

Stop trying to control the perception other people have on you and do what you want to do and if someone thinks badly of you so fucking be it.

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-10-17T19:14:38+00:00

You’re trying so hard to say the right thing that you end up saying nothing, and women can feel that hesitation instantly. Attraction doesn’t come from perfection, it comes from presence.

Your dry humor is actually a strength, but you’ve got to let it breathe. The reason you’re funny with people you know is because you’re relaxed around them. Bring that same energy when meeting someone new. Stop filtering every word. You gotta tease a little, joke about something small, and just see where it goes.

And for the Instagram thing, stop waiting for the perfect moment. Just do it.The only difference between awkward and smooth is conviction. Don’t chase being impressive. Be expressive. Enjoy yourself, and she’ll feel it too.

stanny6609 · 2025-11-23T23:43:02+00:00

do you live in a big city? eg london?

Title	Wittiness
Author	Glad-List177
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	October 16, 2025 3:33 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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