Working with SA?

JavaMummy · 2012-09-10T02:30:18+00:00

It's something you'll develop over time. Just keep going from situation to situation with confidence, and STAY COOL. You need to learn to let NOTHING bother you. If you ever feel flustered from a joke, just take it easy. It might feel like the right thing to do is the fix the solution as fast as possible. It's only natural to go in to "damage control" mode. Just let the jokes come, look smug/confident, and wait for your opportunity to speak. You'll always have an opportunity to speak. Think of something clever to say. If you can't, just go along with the joke! People will love you if you can take a joke, go along with it, and even tastefully make fun of the other person back.

2012-09-10T02:39:17+00:00

Frame is key. If you convince yourself that you're the handsomest, most interesting man in a 30km radius, your actions will reflect that. If you were in the right frame of mind you could have used that waitress's remark as an opportunity to open her. It shouldn't be a confidence crusher at all. Quite the contrary.

It's much easier said than done. It takes time. You'll probably feel like you're deluding yourself the first 20 times or so. Keep at it. Figure out why you have difficulty believing that you're awesome, then build another layer of delusion over that. Who gives a shit if it's all false? If believing it makes you a more attractive man, so be it.

ExpertOnNicheThings · 2012-09-10T08:54:11+00:00

That used to happen to me as well. I remember at work going bright red when an attractive older co worker made a sexual joke. They didn't say anything but everyone knew. This happened every now and then when talking with attractive female co workers. Over time I really tried to become more confident in myself and reading on Seddit has only helped me. I worried way too much what people thought of me, now I have been learning to stop giving a fuck. I am in no way a PUA or smooth ladies man, but I have definitely come a long way from where I used to be.

Another thing is I found after I started going to the gym it helped increase my confidence. More because I am fairly tall but had really bad posture and was always looking down and at the ground. After a few months in the gym I my shoulders were naturally back and I was always standing up straight. Not only did I feel more confident but I also looked more confident which helped me even more.

Title	Working with SA?
Author	PabloTheFlyingLemon
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	September 10, 2012 2:16 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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