One problem that I used to have was understanding what people meant by "sexualizing" the conversation and exactly why you need to do it.

The Why

The reason why we sexualize the conversation is because we want the girl that you're gaming to be able to create an association between you and sex. I always thought that it was mostly body language that helped you convey this but I only realized recently that what you say can also help big time. Ill give you two real-life examples that helped me realize this:

  1. A girl I work with is a complete smoke show. Hands down the nicest ass I've ever seen, pretty face and cool personality. However, she doesn't exactly exude sexuality all that much aside from the fact that she's smoking hot. Doesn't talk about sex, makes sexual comments or plays along that much when someone else makes one. Another girl I work with who is pretty much equal in looks DOES play along. Guess which one is much easier to fantasize about?

  2. A guy I work with (I love my coworkers, can you tell? :P) is probably one of the most crude moithed person I've ever met. This guy will have no problem asking you if you've ever used anal beads 5 minutes after meeting you. The girls sort of expect these types of comments from him so they laugh it off or even play along with it! What's more (and this helped me figure it out) is that a mutual female friend of ours was telling me how she asked another female friend of ours if she also has dreams of hooking up with this guy. Turns out she does too!

This brings me to the second part...

The how

Based off these 2 observations (the second being the strongest), you can help create an association between you and sex simply by talking about it!

Before, I had the impression that when someone said "sexualize the conversation" it meant that you needed to start talking about sex between you and her right off the bat. Some men are able to do this but for the rest of us, it tends to just creep the girl out or make her put up a shield.

Instead, its much easier to start off with a generalized conversation about sex and eventually lead into subtling dropping innuendoes between you and her (not necessarily in the same conversation but in future ones).

Doing it this way almost makes it natural for her to create an association between you and sex because to her it would seem expected for you to talk about that.

Give it a shot see how it goes!

Cheers and good luck.