Thank you to all that responded to my story. I have gone to a lot of different communities and this is the first one that has truly opened my eyes. That being said yesterdays responses were enough to encourage me to confront my wife about my desires to leave her. I basically told my wife that I wasn't happy and still very bitter about the shit she put me through her response was pretty astounding and I thought you guys might find it interesting.

I told my wife i felt like I was duped for allowing her to get away with the violence she inflicted on me daily and that you, as a woman, are incapable of understanding the shame I feel. I told her it was likely that my feelings would never change. She responded first by saying that its in the past now and we need to move on and that I put her through abuse by witholding the details of my past relationships from her even going as far to say that the way she treated me was because of not explaining all the juicy details of my sexual encounters.

My wife also went on to say that during the divorce precedings she was going to a mental health counselor. By the way she was only going to the counselor so she can get re-diagnosed with not being bi-polar. Continuing she says that this counselor told her it was abusive to hold that kind of information from her and the counselor adviced her to just let me go.

I said you are still justifying your terrible behavior you will not accept that you were physically abusive. From here there wasn't anything else she would tell me she just totally changed the subject asking me what I wanted. I told her my life would be far more productive without her around so she actually agreed that divorce was a good idea.

She said this time she would not fight for me to stay but that hasnt stopped her from continually guilt tripping me over breaking my childrens hearts for leaving. She knows good and well what my weekness is and that is my children. It is scary to me that she is using them to make me feel like I am a shitty person and that I am abandoning them.

Oh well i guess this has been a long time coming I woke up this morning not feeling a single shred of grief. If everything goes smoothly we will be divorced within the next 6 months.