I have just had it

throwawaymgtow197 · 2018-01-19T16:40:54+00:00

Sorry to have to be the one to inform you, but...

Chances are that -- other than trying to use you as an ATM* -- once your daughter actually becomes a "teenager"...

She's not going to want to do much of anything with you at all.

Oh, and it's not like it's going to magically "stop" when she turns 18... hell no, the ATM demands just become larger and more insistent. (College -- meaning tuition, dorm and books, AND more -- then an apartment, definitely a car, and so on).

-- * As in "Daddy I want/need a car [plus insurance, gas, etc]" and then there's "But Daaaad, how am I supposed to afford a Homecoming/Prom Dress?" or these days more likely "All the other girls parents are paying for their share of the [band, cheerleader, whatever] group trip to [Disneyland, DisneyWorld, Mexico, Rio, Paris, or _____]."

MadPreacher1AD · 2018-01-19T16:19:58+00:00

By the time your daughter is 18 she will not have anything to do with you. Your wife did her best to turn your own daughter against you and got the full support of society to do it.

purebaltic · 2018-01-19T16:26:36+00:00

Make your daughter the priority, keep making it clear you are there for her and will always be available to talk.

Try to not react to bullshit/drama from your ex wife and ignore as much as possible.

Don't get sucked into emotional blackmail and fork out any more money than you have to. Show your daughter that men are not the assholes her mother is portraying by being a level headed and reliable person

Dudewoahwhat · 2018-01-19T16:20:45+00:00

You have a child, you stay in your childs life. Simple.

ImmortanV8 · 2018-01-19T17:14:25+00:00

Once you are used up as an ATM, she will ignore you. Only until one of those women get into situations where they have problems, they will call daddy to the rescue. Don‘t be an ATM, request something back. If they both do not deliver, cut down your attention gradually. Fathers have a right for respect and attention. Don‘t give yourself away cheap

Llodarr · 2018-01-19T16:31:02+00:00

Know that I am not a parent, so I've never faced this dilemma. But I see it as a lose/lose situation. The only consequences you can influence are your future relationship with your daughter, and your personal level of regret. Find the path that you can live best with. But only YOU can make this decision.

Zentow · 2018-01-19T19:32:44+00:00

Tough call.

On one hand I assume you brought your child into this world voluntarily, which means you are responsible for her until she is an adult.

On the other hand, odds are she will become a cock carousel riding feminist and try to utilize you as an ATM, especially with her mom already doing it.

If you walk away you could end up in legal problems, child support isn't exactly voluntary. Probably best to take responsibility for your decision to have a child and try your best to positively influence her and provide a good masculine rolemodel.

If she grows up to be a piece of shit as an adult, you can always disown her then in good conscience.

DrRedPaint · 2018-01-19T21:42:53+00:00

Avoid nagging and drama as much as possible and just pay what you have to pay. Nagging is what wears you down. Learn to relax. Watch some stand up comedy and have a laugh. In 6 years tell your daughter she has to support herself because she is now old enough to do that. Help her to find a first job if she is not sure what to do.

KarmaLivesMatter · 2018-01-19T16:09:52+00:00

Spread the word, right now you've got to continue to be in her life, good or bad, you're there. In the meantime spread the word.

MegaDeathX12 · 2018-01-19T20:41:46+00:00

She sees what your wife does and thinks this is normal behavior. Not mention your wife is calling you to discipline your daugther but you're not in the same house. Since your ex wife took the responsibility for your daugther she should be disciplining her if she can't then she needs to give you custody of her. I would keep records of what is going on and try to get custody of daugther.

mgtowmaniac · 2018-01-20T02:42:17+00:00

There is not much choice but to hang in there. Only you know what your relationship is with your daughter. I know if it's at all good, you shouldn't fuck it up. Believe it or not, girls see through their mothers bullshit faster than anyone, once they get in their teens. Of course I'm making allot of assumptions here, that she is a relatively intelligent girl. Actions speak louder than words, I've seen many a daughter turn on their mothers after they grow up and start to understand the power woman have over men. They tend to become sympathetic to their fathers. Especially if their fathers where always good to them. Financially, kids are a nightmare regardless of the situation, married, divorced, single parent, whatever. Your paying no matter what. One day at a time, it's all you can do.

crshdurmomlstngt · 2018-01-20T18:37:24+00:00

Can you walk away? Is there a better life for YOU out there? Maybe a better job, in a place that offers relative anonymity?

I only ask because if there is, tell no one and start planning it/funding it. Imagine a place where you can start your life over and live it the way you want. You are doing your part to support your child, but the reality is that what the guys here are telling you might be spot on. That it won't matter much, because the ex will have total control anyway...

If you want to communicate with her, find her friends on social media, get that address and send handwritten letters. She won't show appreciation now, but will matter later. Do not send fuck all to your ex's house, because she'll sensor that shit.

Maybe I am callous, but I think that you also have an obligation to be happy and live your life too. Maybe a full ghost operation is in order.

Think about what it would be like to cut all ties with the people you are around and if that sounds appealing (gives you a sense of explorers euphoria), you know the answer. Otherwise, expect things to stay the same or maybe get worse.

You have one life to live, bro, live it on your terms.

2018-01-21T12:40:55+00:00

God i have never thought about an Throwawaay account, and im also using my real name to post here, can anything happen?

Mechnasty · 2018-01-19T20:21:16+00:00

When she's 13 she gets a say in where she wants to live. Turn her against her mother and get her to move in with you. Use psychological warfare. Whatever it takes. Turn the tables. We both know how this ends if you don't. You don't have anything to lose and neither does you daughter.

I have just had it

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Sorry to have to be the one to inform you, but...

I wish I wasn't... trust me.

-- As for your daughter's FUTURE...

"Give me a child for his first seven years and I'll give you the [adult]." *

Title	I have just had it
Author	throwawaymgtow197
Upvotes	26
Comments	22
Date	January 19, 2018 4:03 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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