By the time I write this I will be back home from a holiday I am sitting on the train back home and I just want to share this little story. All my eight friends were drinking last night, we had a cool party, we talked about various topics and I enjoyed it a lot. Although they were all drinking, I did not because I just don't find it fun and I can't get over my hangovers and the state of my mental health that forms in my head once I am sober. The problem rolls in the door once somebody wants me to drink. I had to tell one girl that I don't want to drink over six times and after that had to argue why am I not drinking. The usual stuff basically. They wanted to know the reason - I tell them the reason - it's not enough - I tell them some more - they start saying bs like: "but you are gonna be fine", "just one sip","it won't hurt". No. NO! NO! I just don't want to drink and it is none of your business if I drink. And if you get teiggered over me not drinking and you are calling me shallow for it, then think about the situation you are literally getting mad at a guy that made a decision that has little to no influence on you.

The point I am trying to get across is that once you differentiate, some people will just not get over that fact and will get butthurt from it and they will want you to "change back" especially women because they like control. So they will start changing you back and using pressure to turn you into one of the "sheep". I beg of you, don't fall for it. Stand for what you find right and don't let somebody turn you into his/her best version of yourself, be your own best version of youself. For the love of god or whatever you believe or stand for: GO YOUR FUCKING WAY!

Tldr: Don't get pulled into the herd. Stand your ground when it comes to your qualities.