Note: So, this turned into a way longer post than I had intended. I apologize for the turgid nature of this post; my enthusiasm got the best of me. If you manage to read the whole thing, I applaud you.

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It has become apparent to me that a review of the basics of MGTOW is required for all the new(er) folks. Whether it’s intellectual laziness or not knowing where to start, I don’t know. I have seen far too many comments with the fumbling rejoinder of “That’s sexist” and I think it needs to be addressed.

In our society, you can’t swing a cat or, in this case, criticize the behavior of women without incurring that frustrating retort. Whether it is, as I said, intellectual laziness or willful Ignorance, I don’t know. The label of “sexism” is thrown around far too enthusiastically nowadays, even in realms which are supposedly redpilled. This is, I think, simply a result of the redpill being the counterculture of the day, and those without an identity of their own tend to gravitate towards the latest identity without really understanding what it is. So, in the interest of intellectual clarity and universal goodwill for my fellow man, I’m here to clear up any confusion.

When MGTOW criticizes the behavior of women, it does not stem from hate nor any other incel-based self-pity. Most MGTOW are men who have been in relationships and have been put through the ringer by the women in their lives. After one of these cataclysmic events, they begin to ask questions. I know I did. Why did this happen? She said she loved me; how can she do this if that is the case? Why did I lose everything, including my children and why did she say I abused her; I’ve been the best husband I could be. These are all legitimate questions. The intellectually honest person would then endeavor to find the answers to these questions. Information is the best defense you have, after all. Knowing what’s what could protect you in the future. After some searching, a man armed with these questions will inevitably find the red pill community. In my case it was the PUA community which first showed up on my radar. While their goals are misguided in my opinion, they do present information which is valid. It’s in these communities where you first hear about hypergamy, Briffault’s law, the 80/20 rule, divorce and STD statistics, evolutionary biology, etc. This information helps answer some of those questions I mentioned above. But all this information leads you to one inescapable conclusion. The PUA’s have it all wrong. If you know all this information to be true, why would you willingly and consciously put your dick into that bear trap? There has to be a better way, which leads you to MGTOW.

But, what is hypergamy? What is Briffault’s Law? What is the 80/20 rule? What the hell does evolutionary biology have to do with men and women? This is where a little bit of research can go a long way, and this is where I think a lot of people’s eyes glaze over, but this information is important and if you’re going to simply dismiss it as sexism, then you aren’t going to learn a whole hell of a lot.

So, what is hypergamy? Hypergamy is where a woman will trade up to the best man she can get. If her circumstances improve, so will her hypergamy. If this continues unchecked, a woman will trade her way right out of the dating market. She will keep trading in men, possibly good, honest, and loving men, until she is trying to get men who are way out of her league. It is obvious to see how this negatively impacts societies. Women will trade their men, leaving destruction in their wake until she can no longer attract a man, at which point she will go back to her most recent step stool. Unfortunately for her, he’s learned her nature and won’t have her. This is why it’s imperative to dissuade women’s hypergamy in a complex society. They will leave a horde of disenfranchised men in their wake and put such a burden on the system, when it becomes apparent that no man will have her, that societies will buckled under the weight. It isn’t a problem if one or two women do it, but if 100,000,000 women do it, it is cataclysmic.

What is Briffault’s Law? Briffault’s law is a statement about male/female interaction. There are several corollaries to this law.

Briffault’s Law: The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.

Corollary 1: Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him. (Translation: What have you done for me lately?)

Corollary 2: If a woman promises a man to continue her relationship with him in the future in exchange for a benefit received from him today, her promise becomes null and void as soon as the benefit is rendered. (“I will gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today.“)

Corollary 3: A man’s promise of a future benefit has limited ability to secure a continuing relationship with a woman, and his promise carries weight with her only to the extent that the woman’s wait for the benefit is short and to the extent that she trusts him to keep his promise.

Briffault’s Law makes no judgement on women; it merely states the facts of male/female mating. We can see that this rule holds true in modern dating. Men, almost universally, pursue women. Because of women’s inherent hypergamy, a man’s success is entirely dependent on what benefit he can provide to the woman.

What is the 80/20 rule? Again, it goes back to unfettered hypergamy. 80% of women will all pursue the top 20% of men. Even women who have no realistic chance of getting the top 20 man will still pursue him, at the detriment of the men who could realistically secure and who would be content to be with her.

What do divorce and STD statistics have to do with any of this? I can only speak to the United States though, to my understanding, most westernized countries are similar. There is a 48% chance that any given marriage will end in divorce and women initiate 75-80% of divorces. The most common cause is “irreconcilable differences”; translation: I’m bored or I’ve found something/someone better. Similarly, STD rates among you people (25 and under) are scratching at 50% as well. This percentage tapers off slightly as the age range increases, but is still at pandemic levels. I grant freely that this particular fact cannot be laid solely at women’s feet. However, since 80% of women are vying for 20% of men, the pool of repeat and shared sexual partners is at an all time high, encouraging the spread of STDs. And since, as Briffault’s law states, women control inter-gender mating, it is women’s unfettered sexual liberation which leads to these pandemic scale statistics.

But why is all of this the case? If hypergamy and female mating preferences/ strategies are the cause of so much trouble, why don’t they just stop doing it? In the end, it comes down to biology. From an evolutionary perspective, these are highly successful methods to ensure that your offspring are the best and most successful they can be. Back in the halcyon days of Homo Habilis and Cro-magnons, this was fine. It worked. High male competition (and death rates) and female willingness to trade in for the best male she can secure led to strong and highly successful offspring. So, these characteristics of female mating are hard-wired into our biology. And try as you might to socially engineer behavior, biology will always win. As Ian Malcolm says in Jurassic Park, you can’t suppress a hundred million years of evolution. Life… uh… finds a way. So, this is just a fact of biology. But we no longer live in caves and beat each other over the heads with sticks. There are no longer saber-tooth tigers lurking behind every bush and rock. We live in complex societies, which only function when everyone is working together and where competition and aggression are channeled into productive outlets. In this world, where there are laws and rules of social etiquette which govern our lives, that same highly successful female mating strategy is debilitating. It will destroy your society very quickly and very violently.

That does not mean that women are bad, evil, or any other pejorative you can think of. Women just are what they are and they do what they do. However, since we live in a complex society, if women won’t control themselves, then men have to pick up the slack. It’s not sexist to state these facts. Facts are facts. If you choose to ignore unpleasant facts in favor of comfortable lies because my-soggy-knees, then I don’t know what to tell you. The sad fact of the matter is that you’ve been conditioned by your biology to blindly support women at your own detriment. And you’ve been conditioned by a hundred years of female supremacy propaganda (ie. Feminism) to believe that women can do no wrong and that any criticism of women is hatred. Facts are facts, and are not subject to the whims and vagaries of feelings. If the above-mentioned facts make you uncomfortable, perhaps a little self-reflection would go a long way to alleviating your discomfort. Hate is an unfair criticism based on personal dislike. I think there are few MGTOW who “hate” women. At most, I would say that MGTOW fosters an embarrassed disapproval, like a person’s child throwing a tantrum in the grocery store. You don’t hate the child, you merely are embarrassed by them and disapprove of their antics. And the solution to the metaphorical problem is the same as the solution to the real world problem. Discipline and authority are the only way to correct the issue.

Unfortunately, in our current society, it is highly doubtful that discipline and authority will ever be willingly re-instituted. Therefore, MGTOW have decided to leave the game entirely. It’s not worth it and will only get worse as time goes by. Better, by far, to let them wallow in their own destruction than get involved and be destroyed yourself. The only winning move is not to play. That is the core of MGTOW philosophy. It isn’t hate. It isn’t misogyny. It isn’t male supremacy. It is simply a refusal to play a rigged game.