I am concerned

theJackBurton13 · 2019-12-24T15:50:33+00:00

Finding a girlfriend at your age will make you feel fantastic...for a couple months. Then it will start to turn. You should experience this stuff when u are young. There is nothing like finding out a person u thought the world of and did everything for doesn’t and never did care about u. It’s a real eye opener. I used to get very excited when I was talking to a girl at your age. But I haven’t felt that feeling in many years. Women are no longer capable with providing me with a sense of joy anymore. I know their true nature and what they are really up to. Only I can make me feel a sense of happiness these days. It’s a little sad and it made me angry to hear this stuff at first. But now I feel it’s quite liberating.

Whulfz0r · 2019-12-24T16:36:30+00:00

Finding love will help you, son. The love for yourself that supercedes all others and keeps the fire in your heart stoked to push forth and live the best life you can.

-OutS1D3R- · 2019-12-24T15:52:44+00:00

Never be dependent on other people for improving yourself. And "love" us most likely to turn you into a weaker man than somebody you would be proud. I can tell you by experience, I have started dating a girl and I already feel like I am wasting my time, and I really, really like the girl. Improve for yourself bro, and realice that you earn more if you invest on yourself.

Islamrightaboutfems · 2019-12-24T15:58:28+00:00

You have three important elements for a disaster. No male role model, auto image or depression problem and was in the wrong track to fix it (a gf would surely not help you with those problems).

First of all, I don't know where you live, but you have to guarantee a stable future. Work, study (be objective, having a degree just for the sake of it is not worth it, follow the money) and consider the possibility of having a few sessions of counseling, a male one and try to find out if it's one those crazy ones that believe in toxic masculinity (run away from those).

Work out, find some hobbies, you don't have to become the biggest, buffest modo around, but exercise is very important to auto image and your well being. Eat healthy, don't fall for drugs.

And the most important thing of all, don't let any female determine your self worth, not your mother, not your sister and not you date/gf (if you decide that you wanna try a relationship even after everything you read here).

iamdexter12 · 2019-12-24T16:01:25+00:00

At your age, you have nothing much to lose financially by leeches.

Only spin plates and don't engage in LTRs.

NAILmg42 · 2019-12-24T16:56:06+00:00

The other gents helped so I throw mine in for you specifically about Male Role model.

I aimed for a time that mattered and men that defined it to find decent ones. Einsenhower is good example. But my favourite is Gregori Zhukov, Russias greatest general who defeated the Nazis in WW2 in every crushing battle. He never lost a battle, and is a fine example of defending his nation, be a no nonsense guy, even wanting to reach out and ally with west due to Relationship with Eisenhower.

If Zhukov wasn't sent immediately to Siberia following the 1945 Victory parade he led in Moscow after Battle of Berlin and Germany's surrender due to Stalin's fear of the public's love for him, he might have replaced Stalin at a key point. It is theorised that his reputation was enough to not be countered, and if elected leader of Russia which was probably going to be so if kept around in public eye, he would have prevented the cold war from ever happening, with no personal ambition to spread Communism as far as Serbia and Berlin as Stalin did.

Nazia were 3 years of the atom bomb, with unstoppable V2 rockets capable of delivering them. Eisenhower and Zhukov especially saved the world.

GreetingsFromErf · 2019-12-24T17:25:11+00:00

Hands down the most important thing is to never get a woman pregnant. Minimally keep it wrapped. Consider a vasectomy. Consider hiring a pro if you can do so without legal issues.

I'm kind of assuming you haven't had sex yet. Perhaps I'm wrong about that. If not though, you will find out it scratches an itch, but it helps with absolutely nothing. If you can safely figure that out, then you will be able to get on with life as "the question" will no longer be hanging over your head.

Focus on you. Get some self esteem by becoming excellent at something.

2019-12-24T18:41:14+00:00

As a 33 year old mgtow, I can only give you one advice, shut up around women and listen to what they say and watch what they do carefully. Learn from everything, be a f**cking sponge and never think your life will be better with a LTR, trust me, you'll be miserable.

Dorgdorg · 2019-12-24T15:58:57+00:00

It begins

Solo_and_Simple · 2019-12-24T21:14:19+00:00

I would say that if you that another person will save you, fix you, make things all right, solve your problems, or anything like that, you're operating out of a codependent or dependent mindset that is going to set you up for all kinds of problems. I'd strongly encourage you to work on yourself -- on your self-image, on your identity, on your sense of self-worth, on your direction and purpose in life. Do that first. Leave women and relationships for later. If you enter a relationship now, you will just get f*cked over.

Believe me, I've been there. I started life with the same sort of feelings as you have. Work on yourself. Take care of yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Learn to support and build yourself up. Work on becoming a stronger, more confident person.

Right now, you're essentially looking at women the way an alcoholic looks at a bottle. It's not going to turn out well. Forget that and work on the inside first.

techstural · 2019-12-24T19:17:25+00:00

Finding yourself as a man is the most important. Craving after love is still a child's thing. Getting burned at some point might be inescapable/necessary. Eventually, though, I pretty much kept to myself until I could find a way to approach romance in a reasonable, not desperate way. It was a long process. You mileage may vary, but you don't really sound like a Chad, either.

Stahlboden · 2019-12-24T21:24:22+00:00

The less anxiety you will have about your self-image and the more you will respect yourself the less you will desire a woman in your life, at least that's exactly how it works for me.

LOIKDU · 2019-12-24T22:20:30+00:00

Paul Elam old videos are pretty good to get really disgusted at relationships. The rationnal male is a good book for that too.

Esther Villar's "Manipulated male" is the best.

trematar · 2019-12-24T23:13:10+00:00

Hey man, I want you to remember this quote. "Men age like wine, women age like milk" ... as you get older, you will look better, stronger, and more attractive. I recommend to go to r/intermittentfasting and check out all the overweight people that lose weight. Most of them just skip breakfast and eat between 12pm - 6pm every day. This way their body has 18 hours of "fasting" daily. Don't snack or drink soda during the fasting times, just drink water. Between 12 and 6, eat whatever the heck you want lol. Anyway, that will solve your weight problem. Once you look and feel better, females may notice and start to be nice and want to date you, as a young man its up to you to get involved with them, just remember, life is sooooo much easier if you dont live with girlfriends or marry them. Live separate and if they push to move in with you, break up with them. I also suggest you read this book "The Predatory Female" it was written by a pastor who saw many patterns of divorce in his church and figured out that females are programmed by society to take all that they can from men and bleed them dry. With fasting and knowledge, you will start to love yourself, and love life. Always remember, you DO NOT NEED FEMALE VALIDATION! Seek out your fellow MGTOW bros, we will have your back for life. Feel free to message me if you ever need support!

2019-12-25T00:20:50+00:00

Care about yourself, invest only in yourself, think about yourself. You need only a year to get a masculine figure, if you meant that you want an awesome body.

Just know that you want nice feelings and sex, that is above all. Other people, i.e. women, are actually ok with getting their goals

sebastian0801 · 2019-12-25T03:19:23+00:00

Get some hookers and emty yourself. Till you lost the thought about getting a girlfriend. The are a waste of time.

For one or two month they are ok but they will test how far they can go. By then the deadline to "dump her" or "to bend over for her" starts. Woman dont bring happiness.

Batman_MGTOW · 2019-12-25T05:40:48+00:00

You have to come to terms with the fact that there is no higher purpose in life, there is no ultimate final destination to aim towards, you need to realize that your life is what you make it, your salary is determined by the specific set of skills that you have and the demand for those skills, if you have the same skills as most people, then you will probably not make more than the average salary, but if you have skills that are not only rare but in high demand by employers, then you are going to get paid lots of money for much less of your time. So the more you make per hour, the less you need to work to earn the same amount of money as someone who earns less.

The reason why I am saying all of this is because your main goal right now should be to go to college in such a field, so that when you get your degree, not only will it be easy to find a good job but also you will automatically start with a high salary and then your efforts will be rewarded by pay raises over time which will make you richer as time goes on. As you earn money, you can invest some of it to make even more money. You can then use that money to buy the things you want, for example, lets say you always wanted to visit France, Switzerland, The US, Japan, South America or even southeast asia, if you had enough money, you could do that and then your travel budget would depend on how much money you have in your possession. So if you are really rich, then you can stay at all the nice fancy hotels and enjoy many luxuries.

In the end though, it will be up to you to decide what you want to spend your time and money, because you can also choose to work less so you can have more time, as a result, you would have less money but much more time, it all depends on what your priorities are but know this, if you work 40 hours a week making minimum wage for 10 years and I go to university to become an electrical engineer and work for a few years in my field, it will not take me many years to have more savings than you. This is what most people do not realize, they say that money doesnt matter or that it corrupts but they are wrong, money is really just freedom, it is the currency of time itself. And people who make lots of money have a huge advantage over people who make very little and in this day and age, anyone who is willing to put in the work and time required to succeed is able to increase the worth of their time by a huge amount.

Title	I am concerned
Author	Notsoracistman
Upvotes	64
Comments	30
Date	December 24, 2019 3:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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