Nobody seems to talk about how bad the deal can be even if you marry a virgin.

I grew up in church and I'm still a Christian, and even when the girls are homeschooled and married straight out of high school or never ended up going wild, they still usually end up viewing men as just beta providers. It really doesn't help that most churches take a very patronizing, condescending view toward men and husbands and the women tend to be very smug when referring to their men as though they are well-behaved boys.

Even the wholesome couples I knew where they stayed married until death, the woman was still in charge and basically mothered the man.

However, there are exceptions, and they occur when the man puts himself in charge in his own life and his family's life and handles his shit. But those are few and far between and still risky. Most women seem to genuinely believe they are better than their husbands after being exposed to the toxic cultures in our religious institutions.

Even with an older Muslim woman I spoke to recently, she may have had a modicum of respect for her husband, but she still ran her household and claimed that it was her right to be in charge there while her husband was required to pay her bills.

Last year I spoke to some 50-60-year-old church ladies along with some female acquaintances of mine, and they treated me so condescendingly as though I needed to be taught how to be a good little beta. In front of my face, they told my female acquaintances that they would "help" and "teach" me how to become a "better man" and learn how to treat women after I shared a few of my thoughts on dating. Even women from the silent generation whom I knew as a kid acted like this.

I always laugh and nod along with them, and it's really more amusing than frustrating, but I would NEVER take a girl seriously if I knew she listened to schoolmarms like that and I would avoid anything more than surface-level interactions.

Honestly, as a Christian man I would rather be with a "former" slut who will stay beautiful and respect me until she cheats and leaves than deal with one of these condescending, uptight "good girls" who think it is their duty to "guide" me with their group of churchwomen. At least the slut will give me a way out that is accepted by the Bible since it's not a sin to divorce for infidelity. The other type of girls will just nag me and frustrate me until I die early.

In the end, the lesson is this: if you are a Christian/religious, you are generally only required to submit to God, your religious leaders (in certain matters) and the government. Apart from that, our goal must be to submit as little as possible and value our personal sovereignty, because nobody else will value it.

And to the readers who are in or plan to start long-term relationships or cohabitation in the current state of the West, I hope you have a plan to absolutely crush her in family court or burn everything you have to the ground in case she tries to take you to the cleaners. And then stand your ground and don't let them control you. These people need to understand that men are not to be trifled with before anything will change.